Below you will find a timely post that my sweet friend and fellow Reiki Master Teacher, Denise Sheehan of Sage Spirit Coaching shared as a guest blog today by Alluvia Love on new ways of relating from a place of unconditional love. But first, I wanted to share some of my own feelings that her article and recent conversations brought to mind.
There are many ways to “be” in relationship and more and more people are discovering what speaks most naturally to who they are, as they continue to process, work with shadow energy, and start releasing old definitions and conditioning discovered through their personal exploration. This opens up an expansive experience where each person can choose how to create the kinds of enriching relationships that feed their individual and unique souls.
People are feeling freer, more empowered, and joyful when they realize they no longer have to live by certain standards and expectations, and they let go of pressures and unnecessary roles they “have” to play.
The unconventional is becoming more conventional in some ways, as more people embrace their trueness.
Getting married, having children, and finding that “one” person is so beautiful, enriching and wonderful to both the individual and all whom that person touches, yet it isn’t for everyone and isn’t the only or “right” way.
What is ALSO beautiful is knowing who you are, embracing, embodying, and sharing that in the way most expressively mirroring of you and how that translates in the form of relationships and creative “birthing” energy, which makes you a powerful and valuable investor of energy into the collective pool as well, helping to enrich others’ lives because you are living authentically.
As the masks and illusions drop away, we are left with the creative freedom to reinvent our lives, work, relationships, and fulfillment from a place of love within our hearts that speaks to each of us, as is perfect and aligned with personal and collective evolution. However that translates is perfect.
It’s interesting, but not surprising that this post came in today when I was actually sharing about my own way of relating and approaching relationships with a couple of dear people in my life. I’ve been in many relationships and have experienced a lot over the course of my life, playing out things that were not me and me, moving in and out of exploring it all to discover what feels most naturally reflective and mirroring of who I am.
When I didn’t understand myself fully because of being so energetically impressionable and unable to decipher me from others, I fell into roles that ultimately were uncomfortable, unsatisfying, painful, and confining – at times even detrimental to my health, well being, and chosen path I came to live out. Ultimately learning that I find my own satisfaction within my own experience and that relationships are something I choose to share in, but not that I need something from.
I don’t view relationships as needing to supply me with any or all things because I know that is only satisfied by my relationship with myself, which allows me the experience of giving and receiving from that well of wholeness I feel within.
Over the course of my life I have given a lot energetically away to others, as I know many of you have as well, and I’ve learned to give to, and love, myself now. In receiving that nurturing from me, it ultimately results in a reflection of receiving from others as well, in a healthy and perfectly mirroring way without “needs” and attachments.
And like many of you, I’ve tried to go against a lot that I intuitively felt and this has only brought sadness and disappointment because I would try to make something happen that simply wasn’t possible, or had expectations rather than allowing, releasing, and focusing on my own shifts. Eventually this leads me back to a greater understanding of myself, which never is about any one person or relationship, but what that reflects about the core of who I am.
I only have issue with this when I start to define things and place myself in a box that I am never going to fit into or when I focus on things conditionally or in limited perspective to my usual expansive ways of seeing. This takes me to a place that is not of my nature and essence, although is a healthy exploration of shadow and things that come up from others around me that get triggered.
We all have a choice about how we want to create our lives and experiences to be and perhaps that will evolve continually for you, or you’ll find one way that feels most resonating for life and grow within that particular experience played out.
I think the key is to love one another no matter what we choose and to do our best not to add to the pressures, judgments, or criticisms of one another if in fact what someone chooses is completely opposite or incomprehensible to you.
We cannot know, nor live, the journey each person is on and what is important and healthy for them to do. But we can love each other regardless because that is what love is all about, afterall – it does not see with bias.
Anyway, here is Alluvia Love with her insights on new relationships in her article, “Letting Love Lead”:
Relationships/connections are primarily about Love over any individual’s needs and when Love is allowed to lead, individual needs are met. This is possible because Love, and not ego, determines the way individual needs are met in accordance with the needs of the Universal whole. ~ Alluvia Love
Humanity is entering a new relationship paradigm. The new way of connecting with another human has nothing to do with rights, ownership, expectation or exclusivity. It is about learning to let Love lead, about trusting an abundant and life-affirming Universe, and about service to Gaia.
Does the idea of losing control of the other humans around you bring terror? Let your fear guide you to your limiting beliefs about what is a human being and what is our natural role in connecting with one another. If you look around you will see that the only being you can control and own is yourself. Every other being will come and go and live and die on their own path. Even if they make a promise to always be there, it will not be true in a physical sense. Truly we cannot own anything because it is all a temporary manifestation of a life-affirming Universe in which change is the only rule.
Humans seek to create certainty in an uncertain river of life. We create insurance contracts, employment contracts and marriage contracts. Human agreements don’t mean anything to the natural world which will burn, erupt, erode and die. This is what the paradigm shift is all about. Humans have gone too far against nature and the Universe is requiring us to realign with the natural world in order to survive as a species. The paradigm shift is about reclaiming our true human nature so that we can co-exist peacefully and beneficially with Gaia.
So the new paradigm relationship work for humans is all about reclaiming self in connectivity with Gaia. In rediscovering our true sacred nature as humans and our unique life paths as individual sovereign beings in service to the Whole, we also rediscover and reclaim our ability to connect in a life-affirming way with other humans.
Flo Aeveia Magdalena, healer/teacher/author, says it beautifully:
By claiming the self, you learn how to stay in a dedicated space of ritual with your own being. It means that everything you’re living makes sense because it honours everyone at the same time. It honours you and it honours the other person. It frees them from responsibility to make you happy, to have sex with you, to marry you, to give you children, or to be in some way present for you – supporting you financially, emotionally or in any other way. It says, “I’m going to do all this for myself. I’m going to live this in a way that makes sense to me. Every moment from this time forward, my own honouring is my primary focus. If I honour my field in integrity, I live in a fullness that makes me awaken all the time to my own capacities and potentials.” You are creating a reality so that the other person can respond to you from that set of circumstances.
Reclaiming self is the service we all commit to one another in any form of relationship. It is our highest service to “other” and to Gaia. Self-realization takes us out of victim mode (I need you) and stands us firmly in our personal power (I am complete and I want to share my capacity with you). The empowered human always has a unique potential to share, and nothing to demand or expect or exclude.
Exclusion is an old paradigm concept. New paradigm is inherently interconnected and therefore all-inclusive. That doesn’t mean we have to allow what we don’t enjoy in our immediate surroundings. It means we serve the highest purpose for everyone involved. That means if two humans cannot enjoy one another, then they will physically separate themselves by a distance so as not to diminish the vibration/capacity of either. This is an act of courtesy and not fear. Ultimately we will all cease to fear one another. The empowered human has nothing to fear in relationship because she is already complete. Anything the sovereign allows into her realm is Joy to her because she lets Love lead.
Originally posted on Children Of Light.:
A little Alan Watt’s time.
Since he died in his sleep in 1973 at the age of fifty-eight, Watt’s interpretation of Eastern spirituality has continued to resonate with Western seekers. Although he read and studied widely and traveled the world interacting with some of the twentieth century’s most influential minds (D.T. Suzuki, John Cage, Carl Jung, Joseph Campbell, and poet Gary Snyder, among them), Watts would be the first to say that, most importantly, he was on a de-conditioning mission. I like the expression de-conditioning, it resonates with me! :)
Here’s one of my favourite Alan Watt’s quotes.
“Jesus Christ knew he was God. So wake up and find out eventually who you really are. In our culture, of course, they’ll say you’re crazy and you’re blasphemous, and they’ll either put you in jail or in a nut house (which is pretty much the same thing). However if you…
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This is a great post from both Laura and John on one of the heavy topics right now. I don’t usually post on individual news, but rather, focus on the energies at large and how to embody change, as I agree fully with both of them, that things aren’t quick and easy on these large fronts, but change will come about “one heart at a time”. I know my role in things and so I embrace that and live it out as consistently as possible. I also agree with what Laura shares about mass protests.
I’ve seen and heard a lot of people very angry about this and so it is the reason I’m reblogging.
I was just having this very discussion last night about all of this, so I’m not surprised again at the synchronicity between Laura and I, which actually (believe it or not) was triggered from seeing two ducks (a coupled pair) out of place, lost and exposed to danger in a parking lot of a grocery store away from nature and how there are no quick and easy answers to what’s going on in the world at large on many fronts.
This then catapulted into this very topic Laura and John share about and I said the same thing when approached with questions…things happen, “one heart at a time”.
These conversations we have, expressing our feelings, exploring our values and truths, being curious, realizing there are other options and perspectives, deciding on what we want to see changed, where we stand, and what our individual roles in that are that we can each take in our own way, and shifting our energies to embody that along with it…one by one is important and effective.
I feel that the very reason these things are seeming to be blowing up so much is that change IS actually happening and these things are becoming more exposed to those who haven’t wanted to see it, so that they too can figure out where they stand. And for those who have been aware, to figure out how you’d like to align more with what your heart is beckoning.
Stand fully in the truth and light of who you are and honor others with that same integrity.
Originally posted on Laura Bruno's Blog:
Here’s another thought-provoking post from John Beckett — this time discussing Michael Brown, Tamir Rice and Eric Garner. I have to say that I agree with him. This is a time for changing hearts, one heart at a time. That’s why I have largely opted to post stories of individuals connecting with other individuals, seeing beyond race, creed and color. Like John, I don’t hold high hopes for change through the venue of mass protests. They’re fine, so long as they don’t get co-opted to become an excuse for rolling out martial law; however, as he says in the comments section:
“I’m an engineer. If a design meets the specifications then it’s a good design. If it still doesn’t do what you want it to do, that’s a bad spec.
“The core problem of our society is bad specs – the wrong values and the wrong priorities.”
All the laws…
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Tashi Nyima gave a moving Thanksgiving talk, which you can find below. The story he shares reminds me of the story of a black teen, Keshia Thomas, who threw herself in front of a white man and KKK member to protect him from an angry mob back in 1996 in Ann Arbor, Michigan, simply because she knew it was the right thing to do – to be kind to another human being.
But many Buddhists believe in compassion for ALL sentient beings, not just for those of their own species, which Tashi Nyima addresses in his talk.
I’m not a Buddhist and I don’t believe this belief and way of life has anything to do with a form of religion. I know many non-Buddhists who simply believe in universal compassion. For me, it is an extension of my very being, breath of life, and spirituality and I don’t know any other way to be.
I had my own journey to get to where I am today and I honor the individual journeys everyone has, as it all has its divine order and is perfect every step of the way.
And yet things are increasingly changing and more and more people are realizing that there is more than one way of being to choose from and this happens because others start to offer new perspectives to soulfully explore through their experiences they’ve discovered and because others have decided to “get in the way” simply to demonstrate there are other options and we don’t have to follow the mob consciousness.
We all have the right and freedom to choose our own reality and we are each unique. The more we realize the power of our sovereign free will and connect with the authenticity of who we are, despite what others think, the more we start discovering the nature of our personal humanity and what reflects this natural rhythm exclusively.
I believe educating ourselves, becoming fully and consciously aware of more than our comfort zones, being curious and open, and really searching within for the truth of who you are, are key to living an empowered, compassionate life.
Tashi Nyima is one man who is “getting in the way”, as he puts it, “trembling with compassion.”
Originally posted on Great Middle Way:
―a brief address by Tashi Nyima to the Richardson Interfaith Alliance (TX) during the Thanksgiving Observance
There is a quote in tonight’s program that reads: “Having abandoned the taking of life, refraining from the taking of life, we dwell without violence, with the knife laid down —scrupulous, full of mercy— trembling with compassion for all sentient beings.” ―Buddha Shakyamuni
When people think of Buddhist monks, if they think of us at all, they imagine that we dwell in clouds of incense, smiling serenely, unperturbed, meditating on nothing. But, as you just read, we are not called to drift placidly in emptiness, but to “tremble with compassion for all sentient beings”.
I thought that the mention of ‘trembling’ was just a rhetorical device, until late one night, returning with my Teacher from visiting with refugees, when we passed by a dark alley and heard the cries of fear and pain of…
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I’ve visited Chichen Itza three times now, walking the ball court where the Mayans played these sacrificial games, John Beckett shares about, of so-called “honor”.
I wondered what ran through the players’ minds and that of the crowds watching as well. As connected as I am to the Mayans, I have always felt such a dissonance with the sacrificial parts of what evolved in these ancient times, wanting to remember and remind others of the natural harmony that was present as well, and that these are reminders of things we don’t HAVE to be engaged in.
There IS always a choice.
In my own life there have been times I felt like I was watching myself on the sidelines, as I “played” out things that felt necessary to something bigger needing to take place. And yet I can look back now, and although it is all perfect in its own way and I wouldn’t change it since I am who I am because of it, I also realize I DID/DO always have a choice that may carry risks, but are nothing compared to the risks of simply accepting what I think I HAVE to do.
Some things have felt written in my soul plan, but I believe we can even rewrite and recreate that because we are powerful, ever-creative, and sovereign beings.
Thank you Laura for sharing this thoughtful post by John Beckett to explore the “uncomfortable”.
Originally posted on Laura Bruno's Blog:
I can’t reblog this article, so I’ll just post a link.
I always enjoy John Beckett’s contemplative musings, and this piece combines personal experience, ancient Mayan ruins, modern Mayan civilization, a ghost story of sorts, and important questions to ask ourselves as individuals and as a society. John’s a self described “Pagan, Druid and Unitarian Universalist,” but for some reason this piece particularly reminds me of the prayer of confession in the Episcopal Church, which seeks forgiveness “for things done and for things left undone.” As the days shorten into winter nights and the world around us continues to offer chaos, I find myself going deeper inside, too. This is an uncomfortable read, but one that asks us to consider what is ours to do.
In a world of imperfect options, at what point do we fight for our lives or for sacred things threatened with destruction? “[W]hat necessary acts…
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Frequency and sound resonance…some of my favorite things. This article and the video in it by Nigel Stanford – which is very cool! – connect with my post today on Lisa Parks and her exploration with water and thought/feeling frequencies as art: Artist Manipulates 48 Pools of Water with Her Mind
Originally posted on Deus Nexus:
Your entire existence…all matter, all life, all experiences–everything owes its existence in the physical world to frequency. Absolutely everything is frequency. You cannot have an experience on this planet without attracting it through frequency. Every emotion, including love and hate tunes into a specific frequency. Health has a frequency. Disease has frequency. Your organs are each tuned to a specific frequency as is your entire body which resonates at its own frequency. You are a symphony of frequencies while you project yourself through this universe and create your physical reality.
You are a master of your energy, and thus you are able to control everything you are, everything you do, everything you experience. From the day you are born until the day you die, nothing will ever change the fact that you are both a frequency emitter and…
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As you welcome in an inspirational New Moon in Sagittarius today, embracing more courage to align with your deepest truth that supports you to create experiences from your center, you may find much of what is shared in this update to ring in true to what that journey has been feeling like. As always, I find this to be another resonating share from Lee, aligned with my own current experiences and what I feel collectively.
The full article can also be found here: November 21st, 2014 Energy Update
This past 2 weeks, the energy has seen a lot of us deep-diving.
Diving down into the depths of ourselves – our feelings, our thoughts, our beliefs, our patterns, our life journey.
It’s as if an electric current is pulsing through your body, wiring and firing you to awaken, awaken, awaken.
More and more and more.
To shed and cleanse, to release and intend.
Peace comes, clarity comes, followed by challenge, distraction, emotion, disorientation, restlessness.
A feeling that things must be going wrong, or need to be changed and quickly.
Yet you do not have the energy to make the changes in the timescale you feel you need to.
This is electricity, moving through your energy field and the field of the collective.
This is the electrified living of these times, bringing us all to clearing.
It can be relentless – it can make you mad, bring you to sadness, and then, it can elevate you into a moment of blinding clarity.
And yet the waves of inner-change keep coming, sometimes fuelled by outer impulses.
Difficult or fear-based dreams are happening to clear us also.
And as you dive deeper into them, you feel it all more than ever before.
You see what the thoughts in you are as they rise more than you could ever see your thoughts before.
You allow the chaos of all this experience to rise in you, for you have no choice.
You learn this quickly.
For if you try to control or fight it, things just feel harder and more ‘against’ you.
So you surrender. It is the only choice.
And it leaves you at the bottom of your ocean.
And then you realize that the bottom of the ocean, where you now find yourself, is not in-fact, to be feared.
Not at all.
It IS a different world than the one you knew, yes, but it is one you can be safe in and find new space in.
Once you adjust and realize that the seeming chaos and speed is part of the deal.
It comes from the impulse of electricity driving us all right now.
It presents a choice to feel everything and allow the chaos, yet find your direction within that in each and every fast changing moment.
As a world we are in a force of change that asks you to flow with it.
As an individual you are in a force of change that asks you to find rebirth within it and the loss of old identity.
This takes courage, and faith that you will be safe without your old ways.
Can you be ready to stop seeing yourself as ‘blocked’, ‘resistant’, not yet ‘there’.
To let go of these old ideas, aims and ways of pushing yourself to grow?
And instead accept that wherever you find yourself today, it needs NO judgment for judgment will only make you feel worse. MUCH worse, and perhaps that is the spiral you are used to.
A downward one.
Can you accept that where you find yourself today only requires great compassion, from you, towards you.
Today needs you to be as kind to yourself as you would be to a friend who was struggling.
So take your foot off the accelerator. Stop buying into the stress, the speed or the depression of others as anything you need to swallow whole and thus also become in yourself.
We absorb each other’s energy all the time, so pay attention to who you are around and whether their energy would be nutritious or toxic to you today.
Be mindful of the company you keep, but do not judge them for where they are.
You can bear compassionate witness for where they are. Yes.
And Empaths, you don’t need to feel or fear the size of their electrical releases.
You have your own to deal with, so observe and leave anything that feels too big for you to handle.
Breathe and say ‘I am safe in my centre’. ‘I release that which is not mine’.
And know we are ALL in this together, navigating a time we have never seen like this on Earth.
An intensity we have not yet been through.
And right now, these pulses are electrifying all of us to keep on rising, keep on clearing and integrating in our bodies and our souls, all we have been learning over the past years.
Sometimes it’s a messy act, this thing of being human.
Spirit knows this, and loves you anyway.
Can you love yourself that much, despite how you are feeling?
Can you let the layers of human judgment and suppression we have all absorbed and identified with, fall away. Even if it looks and feels messy?
Because THERE lies the key.
Loving yourself through these rapid releases. Even the ones that are disorientating you the most.
There lies the peace that we can all learn to find at the bottom of the ocean.
For once we accept how different it seems, we start to realize how safe and connected it all is.
You are very loved.
Never forget that and you will never forget to love.
And then, love will be the fuel that keeps you warm in the world.
Just as you will keep its flame alive wherever you go.
Much love everyone
Origins Exclusive & Free Worldwide Premier & Cowspiracy, A Ground-Breaking Film Environmental Organizations Don’t Want You To See
I’m so, so happy to continue to see conscious awareness, documentary films being produced consistently these days to provide revealing and eye-opening information that no longer provides an excuse to remain blind to things. What you do with the information is up to you as an individual, but you DO have a choice and you DO have the power to create change with that choice.
Two days ago my sweet friend Dawn Vierra posted the film, Origins, which was the first time I had heard of it. I had the opportunity to watch it since and felt inspired to share it here, especially since it is being offered as an exclusive, worldwide FREE viewing until November 22, 2014.
The link is below for your viewing. I think the film makes some great points and connective dots. Like with anything, there is always more to the story and there are different opinions to explore when it comes to health, in particular, through educating ourselves, but also connecting with the nature of you.
Origins touches on how it’s important to return to our “origins”, connect and align with Nature, and that eating whole, organic foods is key to our health and well-being and integral to Earth’s vitality, ability to sustain us, and the web of life. Nature is within us and connects us and by fostering a deep respect and love for Earth, we protect our future and create our hope. The power of change happens when we work as a community.
I decided to share Origins alongside the documentary film, Cowspiracy ~ The Sustainability Secret, which I believe is incredibly important to watch and takes some of these things to the next level that are touched on in Origins. Although Cowspiracy is not available for free viewing, unless organized as a community screening, it is available here: http://www.cowspiracy.com/
As David Simon, author of Meatonomics (and makes a guest appearance in the film) shares in his article interview of the film’s producers, Cowspiracy is a “source of embarrassment for many of the nation’s leading environmental organizations and government agencies, including Greenpeace, Surfrider, Sierra Club, Rainforest Action Network, National Resources Defense Council, the California Water Resources Control Board, and others” that turn a blind and/or convenient eye away from matters at hand.
Having watched the film myself, I whole-heartedly agree and cringed for these organizations as they evaded truth.
Cowspiracy may be the most important film made to inspire saving the planet.
— Louie Psihoyos, Oscar-Winning Director of “The Cove”
A documentary that will rock and inspire the environmental movement.
— Darren Aronofsky, Director of “Noah” and “Black Swan”
I hope you get a chance to watch both of these and the many other “awakening” films out there, as well as hope that you invite an openness to the educative resources you have available that can change the course of your life and this planet at large.
Here is the FREE viewing of Origins…but remember it is only available until November 22, 2014.