Be Your Own True Friend & Come To Experience Others In Their True Light As Well
I was just texting with a friend and their timing couldn’t have been more synchronous. Literally, in the middle of putting together this short post that I felt guided to quickly share, their text came through. My post inspiration is on “true friendship,” having seen this come up as a theme a lot in very sad ways, and what this friend said and shared just went along with it.
They shared with me how lonely they feel…and that they have no friends, to which I responded, “I can’t speak for anyone else in your life, but you have a true friend in me and perhaps the loneliness is asking you to love yourself more and realize the best friend you have within.”
From there all authenticity reveals itself and life is enriched.
“We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.” ~Roderick Thorp
“Friendship with oneself is all important because without it one cannot be friends with anybody else in the world.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
The most important thing is to learn to be your own true friend…the one that provides everything you need unconditionally and allows you to then give TRULY to others. This also opens up your channels to RECEIVE from others, as even when you desire to feel something from another person, they can only do so to the extent by which you are able to accept, receive and feel it from yourself.
The value you place on you will always be reflected. And the DEPTH that you receive in experience from others will grow in mirror to the DEPTH of the authenticity you experience within. If you desire more than superficial niceties and the occasional bursts of joy that leave you empty at the end of the day when they are no longer around, look within and consistently tap into the flow of that infinite source of true unconditional love daily for yourself in authentic ways.
The highs and the lows of life can eventually come to rest in more balance and harmony, as we keep going further in our self-love and innate Divinity with each pendulum swing.
The challenges we have with people and “friends” stems from our relationship with ourselves. They will mirror EXACTLY what we need to see and embrace and what we need to cultivate more of so that we are no longer triggered, threatened, envious of, frustrated, hurt, or angered by others. Turning away or cutting someone out of your life is not the answer either. This works for removing the triggers that may be annoying or bothersome and helps provide you the space to recoup your energy, but if you haven’t taken the time to courageously and vulnerably look within and haven’t done integrative healing work about what exactly it is about the experience with that person that bothered you or created the adversity you experienced, it will inevitably circle around again in some form or another until you stand still with the truth and integrate it unconditionally.
To learn to walk a life of true alchemy you must practice it. Part of living is about learning the simple secrets of alchemy and remembering the magician that you are, as part of the Universal, Ever-Loving and Continually Creative Source.
I guarantee you that when you look within yourself, ask the challenging questions, and process the adjustments and changes for yourself on all levels, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, your experience with that person, persons, or anything that triggers you will simply and magically transform. Sometimes we think the experiences have shifted because the other person just starts to mirror your avoidance too and so then you live in untruth until the next trigger that blows out and you wonder how that happened, or until the next trigger that may not even stem from them, but comes from someone or something else altogether to get your attention.
Things don’t just go away unless we do the powerful work.
We can’t fool ourselves by avoiding or filling our lives with stimulation. At some point or another, which is definitely the focus of the energy now that is making it crucial and no longer a luxury to say, “I’ll work on that later,” we will have to do the deeper integrative processing…and this will lead to the new, authentic, and consistently harmonious and magical experiences that have never been possible before.
In the end, after the veils fall, you will come to know yourself as the best friend you always wished for, and you will come to know who really was always your unconditionally loving friend. And when you do, cherish your and their preciousness and carry that through to every connection you have with others so that you can be that true friend they can cherish as well.
“I believe that true friends talk without intention, give without reason, care without expectation, love without condition, and will be there through thick and thin.” ~Nishan Panwar
“At the end of the day, the people who really matter will be the ones standing next to you watching the sun set and assuring you that it will rise again in the morning.” ~Ash Sweeney
“Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest …It’s about who came, and never left your side.” ~Unknown
Every day is opportunity to challenge our hearts deeper and come to know and cherish the friend within so that we can really see and experience others in their true light as well.
Posted on May 2, 2013, in Uncategorized and tagged be your own best friend, being authentic, creating lasting friendships, how to experience more joy, loving yourself, real friends, true friendship. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.