Boundaries Create Balance & Thriving
We’re often taught that we need to let go of boundaries and be in that unified field instead.
However, I do believe we incarnate in order to express our individuality, authentically and naturally, in such a way as to thrive and shine our light in honor of the Source from which we came. And in order to do that, we need to learn healthy boundaries and how to courageously say “yes” and “no” to what most aligns with us only, and to recognize what isn’t a part of our frequency we choose to experience.
And those boundaries are something we need to create within ourselves as well.
While I love to flow, love, and give, over time I have recognized not only the need to draw the line with people in my life that were energy suckers, between clients and friends (including imbalanced friendships and relationships that put me in work mode rather than relating mode), but also in terms of work time, creative time, play time, me time, connecting time, nature time, etc.
That may seem silly to have to do or even hard to imagine given how my life is now, but I used to have a really hard time saying “no” not only to others, but to myself, and then wondered why I felt so imbalanced and drained. And that’s not even taking into account my empathing like sensitives do. But I was also very adept at just going and giving nonstop with things, especially when it came to close relationships and work, because I had this unhealthy martyr/victim part of me, as well as a very unhealthy drive coupled with an inhuman endurance ability. And I know I’m not the only one who has the tendency to do so.
However, I learned that balance in all ways was key. Balance within and balance without. And it took time to retrain myself into creating a whole new lifestyle that was actually natural to me, when I was able to know my true personal frequency. At the time, I just never realized how I was operating on old and, in some cases, compensating patterns. And when I realized, it was a process to undo what had been done.
I went from a night owl waking up late, to an early riser going to bed early. And what I used to be able to do in the wee hours of the night, just isn’t possible anymore. However, I pack much more into a day now than I ever did when I was up all night because I have also learned to set aside time each day, schedule things out when I need to, and be willing to adapt to what is in my best interest if need be.
That isn’t to mean I don’t flow, (nor does it mean I haven’t put up some good fights with myself in the process) but I’ve also realized that if I don’t keep to setting specific time aside, I simply will bypass it and get into an imbalanced place. Us tough cookies, ingenious self-sabotagers, and past over-achiever types really have to keep on top of ourselves with committed responsibility, presence, and extra conscious awareness to and of self.
Now, I’m flowing with what is a balanced rhythm for me more naturally. This didn’t come over night, but with consistent and devoted practice and effort, it has developed into being more second nature, as it was meant to be, sans conditioning. That doesn’t mean I don’t keep myself in check and continue to monitor myself, as the more we work on releasing and integratively healing parts of ourselves, we will have things surface that can manifest in the patterns we are most accustomed to creating for our own highest good wake-up calls.
And of course there will be times when the energy calls for more time spent in one thing than another and that happens now and then, but I’m REALLY quick at feeling and realizing that I then need to balance it right back out with other things I have been away from, in order to maintain that natural well being AND not neglect what is in the best interest of my higher self path to do, rather than find ways to hide from myself. In the past I would have explained things away or ignored it all together, to do some alternate devised ego plan, rather than my heart and soul’s guidance.
The gift in all of this is that when you start to learn who you really are – know your personal frequency – it becomes VERY easy to spot when you are off balance with it and out of that natural flow. You become more and more sensitive to all the things that don’t feel right. The key then becomes your willingness to commit to getting back on track and operating from your own frequency train again.
And I do have to say that I don’t experience any more complete wipe outs, blow outs, or health crises after long periods of over-doing things. That, in and of itself, speaks volumes, as to how important balance is to making life-changing impact. Everything stays really even-keeled now, including not having the huge highs and lows – creating harmony within and without.
A friend shared this article below, by Jane Porter, which I found to hit on some very key things that I have myself gotten caught up in. And like her, found that by shifting these key things, will make a huge difference. The article focuses on creative work and creativity, but it also stems to any area of your life you want to cultivate more so that you can thrive more.
It can make the difference of turning your current passion-viewed-hobby into the life’s work you know it is meant to be.
We can learn to transmute anything and turn it into thriving rather than struggling, where you harness the power of creative action vs. repression of your soul longings and gifts, and learn to do it in honor of balance and well being.
Yes, other things can wait, your body knows best, committed immersion, beginning now, and feeding the momentum are some of the ways to live your passions to the fullest.
I hope you find her article to speak to what you may be needing to hear right now, as you put into action your new intents for the year.
You can read it in its entirety here:
Posted on January 9, 2014, in Uncategorized and tagged balance for well-being, finding balance, how to be successful with your passions, how to make your creativity thrive, setting boundaries, the importance of healthy boundaries, turning your hobby into a career. Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.