You Complete You


When you truly give up trying to be whole through others, you end up receiving what you always wanted from others. ~Shakti Gawainwholeness

Do you find yourself looking for someone or something to complete you and never feel that you can be happy until you have that perfect partner, friend, job, or thing?

Or do you find yourself content and fulfilled whether on your own or not, or in any given situation?

So many of us have spent a good portion of our lives looking for these puzzle pieces to a puzzle that never was missing a piece to begin with.

You are already capable of being whole in the here and now, as you already are, but simply forgot.

Be the love you seek. Be the joy you desire. Be the peace you crave. Be the wholeness you are looking for.

Yes, we’ve heard it all before…self-love is key to fulfilling relationships and experiences. And yet many of us still keep searching….

Expecting love from others is setting yourself up for disappointment. Expectations of any sort create disappointment.

And, you’ll always attract people and things that reflect something to help remind you of your wholeness – person or thing, or not.

When you can love yourself enough to hold your own light AND darkness, then you can do the same for others and you come to a point of being able to extend radical compassion to everyone you encounter and relate with, especially yourself.

If you empower others with being the source of your needs, desires, and fulfillment, then you will never get anywhere, as humans are fallible and each has their own experiences to go through. So you end up choosing to be in whatever state they are in, rather than choosing your own.

It is your responsibility to be responsible about your life. When you displace power to others to be your source for anything or everything, it becomes easy to place blame elsewhere or find excuses and scapegoats for embracing your own growth.

If you give someone that kind of power over you, who really is responsible for that?

Relationships are powerful growth facilitators, but the key is in continuing to develop your own individuality, independence, and sense of self during the process of relating, learning, and loving. Your personal growth never ceases to be important and it isn’t just for yourself that you do this, but for the greater good, as well as the beauty and grace of your relationships with others.

Cultivating and nurturing your own passions, having some alone time, and time with friends outside of your relationship, really enhances the relationship. When you complete you, you’re in for a truly amazing union with another, as then you are purely there to enjoy each other and in so doing, enhance the quality of the companion you’ve attracted (or will attract) and the time and/or life you share with them. You can shift things instantly within your current relationship as well, the minute you start pointing the power back to yourself and being your own source.

And, when you stop trying to heal and “fix” others, which really is a subconscious cry to heal yourself, you will also start creating things you want more rapidly and come to experience greater and enduring quality of life because you are healing the source, rather than a reflection of it – efficiency and effectiveness at its best.

Since we attract reflections of ourselves in others, as you complete you, the people you attract will start reflecting more of what you always hoped for because you no longer displace your power and now walk in the grace of those things yourself.

About Tania Marie's Blog

Creating life as a work of art with a magick rabbit by my side. I remember my song. Do you? Artist, Author and Reiki Master Teacher with over 25 years' experience in creative healing arts and metaphysical studies. Tania inspires people globally to return to natural harmony, draw forth imagination to manifest dreams, embody creative empowerment, and live more magickally and abundantly from their most natural frequency – in essence, Tania helps you to remember your song.

Posted on August 13, 2014, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 11 Comments.

  1. Well said we all need a reminder every now and zen. Love and Light

  2. Excellent points we so often easily forget. Thank you!! 😉

  3. Nice article Tania! Tweeted and flipped it 🙂

    I wrote in a similar vein when I suggested ways and means to start from a feeling of completion, rather than a seeking of something on the outside in https://serenereflection.wordpress.com/2014/05/28/are-you-singing-your-own-song-or-dancing-to-another-tune/

    It may interest you and your readers 🙂

    • thank you!! and i love your article as well…we are very much aligned in our thoughts. i heard myself in your article and have shared about that “find your own song” story and natural frequency as well. i love synchronicity! thank you for sharing this beautiful connection and your insightful words. xoox

  4. Insightful, as always, Tania. Hugs to you.

  5. yes good….I haven’t really had any relationships with men in a while…wondering with all the knowledge etc..I have on this I haven’t met anyone who is vegetarian, well balanced or has a great sense of humor…I live in an area that is not thriving…and due to my mother being unwell have stayed put…thought of going on a dating site…not sure what to do…many guys in my area do not have well paid jobs etc…and are of a mindset not to ask a girl out…except to hang out…I love to travel as well…any advice on my situation would be appreciated

    • there are many layers that create our individual experiences. timing can play a factor, making different choices, nurturing ourselves more, and being honest with ourselves. many times, the more spiritually advanced at the intellectual level, the more easily we can self-sabotage ourselves and deny or talk ourselves out of seeing the simple ways we may be holding ourselves back. love and hugs to you

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