There Is No Shame In Expressing Feelings


There is nothing wrong with feelings and expressing all of your emotions. I don’t hide from sharing all sides of myself that move through me like a dance because they are temporary and do not define me. I have learned, and we all can, to navigate feelings and it’s a beautifully empowered experience, which is also why I’m doing incredibly well and feel so harmonious after the recent challenges I’ve gone through that in the past were debilitating.

This is why I have been so transparent and shared my recent video about Joy’s transition as a way to support others in surrendering to the beauty of feelings and to know that you can return to peaceful center once you allow that to happen and don’t get stuck in ego judgments, but rather, learn to express the personal without attachment, while embodying the bigger picture that balances.

We are not meant to always be in a blissful, joyous, or even depressive or angered state. These are energetic waves we ride, but the ocean of emotions is all of this and none of this…it is simply a state of harmonious and centered being.

Humans have learned to fear feeling….to deny the wisdom of the body and senses and worship the mind solely.

As a result of being out of touch with their senses, people walk through life completely oblivious to their surroundings and the impact their choices and footprint create on the environment and everyone and everything in it, as a whole.

It’s as if feeling is a foreign invader that we either don’t want to know about (ignorance is bliss) or we want to completely eradicate altogether.

We’re taught to narrow our attention and always obsess over the future, while clinging tightly to the past. But this merely leaves us unable to function in the fullness of who we are in the present.

And, in so doing, we rely on others and so-called “experts” and “authority” figures to make decisions for us. It is a way to not take responsibility with a convenient excuse that we’re too busy or haven’t the ability to understand how we truly feel in order to even make a choice or have an opinion.

So it becomes easier to allow others to choose that for us.

People have run away from authenticity of feeling and replaced this with surrender to what is socially acceptable.

And what does this create?

A build up of explosive, unexpressed feelings that get triggered when you least expect it, and all versions of suppressive and numbing substances and behaviors to stuff those feelings even more deeply.

And then blame is attached to these secondary reasons for our suppression…all simply due to our learning to deny emotional feelings and messaging and continuing to accept that this is acceptable.

Come back to yourself.

Embrace every emotion and sensory feeling, as therein lies the gift of your humanity.

All the colors of emotions are of value. They are all simply energy and part of Source experiencing itself through each wave of feeling that we have the free will to move through. We tend to deem some as better or worse, may avoid them, or deny some in favor of others. However there is a beauty and gift in feeling. Source does not hold judgment on feelings. It remains the unconditionally, detached observer of energy expressions.

Humans hault, block, and attach to energy – defying what is in its innate nature to do, which is flow.

We are human “beings”, which is a motion..a dance…the blessing of “feeling” and moving energy into action. When we allow ourselves to feel, we naturally cycle through the feelings to harmony and balance.

I am grateful for every experience that has taken me to the darkest and lightest of places, for it provides the ability to understand and have true compassion, not to mention infuses everything I do with a breadth of energy that takes my life’s work and relationships to everything around me, to another level otherwise not achieved.

Some of the tormented souls have indeed become great artists, visionaries, movers in the world, and healers because of their ability to go to the full gamut of experiences and depth that then infuses creations, ideas, dreams, and connection with more richness.

We do not NEED to be tormented – that is a choice – but there is also no judgment on this. The key isn’t to avoid feelings, but to learn processes to rebalance ourselves after allowing them to move through us freely. And once we retrain this, it becomes natural once again.

I would not be me, nor where I am in life without ALL that I have gone through.

I cherish the highs AND lows that I have gone through, as they are the sacred fabric of my being.

However, the more I have learned to peacefully navigate the emotional waters, the less the pendulum swings and the more gently it is nudged by the whispers of my embrace.

(This post is a combined new share interwoven with two past shares from 2014 on the subject of feelings. I felt this important to express when someone told me that they did not want to watch the emotional parts of my video about my experiences with Joy’s transition, as they see me as a happy person and don’t like seeing me or “good” people, as they put it, sad. I believe this is a collective belief or reaction that many share where I feel there is a misunderstanding of expressing feelings and being afraid or judgmental of them, as we all have been. And until we learn a new perspective, I’m afraid this will limit the expansive experiences and powerful creative energy we innately have available to us.)

About Tania Marie's Blog

Tania Marie is an international Reiki Master Teacher, Intuitive Energy Guide, Sound Channeler, Visionary Artist, and Author. With over 25 years’ experience in healing arts and metaphysical studies, Tania inspires people globally to embody their essence, access creative empowerment, expand into more conscious awareness, and to harness their magick and imagination to create alchemy for living in harmony.

Posted on June 30, 2016, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 12 Comments.

  1. Brilliant
    Well explained could totally identify with this as my bunny Samuel passed very suddenly as well
    Sorry to hear about Joy, she is in a happy place though, been off social media for a while
    Loads of love huge hugs
    Jeanette

    • thank you so much jeanette…sending you and your dear samuel a lot of love. we have been blessed by their presence in our lives and continue to be, since they are always with us ❤

  2. Reblogged this on Laura Bruno's Blog and commented:
    An important share from Tania Marie. Also, as I have said many times before, feelings are raw energy. Learning to move through the feelings and to work with them ultimately makes use stronger, more effective, more authentic and even enhances magic and manifestation.

    Having known and walked with Tania when Nestor passed and also during Joy’s transition, I can validate how far she’s come with the integration of feelings, but as she said, it’s ALL part of who she has become and is becoming … as is so true for all of us.

    I also highly, highly recommend the book, “Upside: The New Science of Post-Traumatic Growth,” which shares story after story of how many people who suffer trauma and loss oddly enough end up living happier, more deeply fulfilled lives than they led before. The people who exhibit the greatest growth turn out to be the ones who most starkly face what they have lost or experienced. Again and again, consciousness and heartfelt determination to find the blessings result in exponential blessings. When we hide from the feelings or suppress them, we end up with the much less common but more talked about PTSD. There is another way, and they are not mutually exclusive. All in good time …

    • thank you for reflecting the exponential growth that i’ve experienced, assisted by nestor, joy, and gaia too 🙂 and thank you for being there to support me through some of the most challenging of times in my life. i hope others will read the book you shared, as it sounds powerful and directly reflects my own experience of all of this. this is the true alchemy!! i love you ❤

  3. Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature

    Hey sweet Tania,

    So raw are our emotions through grief. Such a time for letting them come, expressing them and embracing all that we are.

    I think you were/are magnificent in your care for Joy, and the love you shared always, but talking now about her transition time.

    I was thinking that as well as her not wanting you to see her go, I wonder if maybe she knew she couldn’t let go when in your physical presence because she loved/loves you so much. It was hard for both of you to say goodbye, but grace stepped in and took you both to higher places.

    There is something so beautiful about grief. Yes, it’s painful – the waves of deep longing for their physical presence, which is so so hard, but the love and gratitude for the relationship is so extremely deep and intense during and acute loss, like you are closer to her than ever. So completely in the moment. I know you know this, and are feeling it. I think all the emotions can also be a deep healing cleansing – all emotions that are in there hiding can’t help but come up to be released.

    Your video was so sweet. I cried along with you. Your process was so like mine with Trinabinabunny, my brother David and Rosie. Just being with it all. All of it. Making those hard decisions about what treatments or diagnostics to put them through. Lying next to them for days as they make their travel plans for the next world, and supporting them in making that leap. The deep sadness combined with encouraging them to go into the Light.
    It is a deep heart opening time. I think a lot of people get stuck in the pain and miss out on the depth of gratitude and love. Like you, I love that I feel deeply. The experience of life seems greater or more profound somehow- going to those depths and heights.

    I love you Tania. You know I am sending you deep, sweet heart energy – the supportive of your process kind.
    With tenderness,
    Mary

    • thank you dearly mary ❤ ❤ ❤ for your love, support, and for sharing your own journey with trinabinabunny. i love your perspective about joy's choosing for me not to be there to make it easier as well. that resonates so deeply and adds to my deeper integration of this, as well as to the love i have for her and her devotion. it was indeed such a graceful experience in all ways and i couldn't be more in gratitude for the gift. your expounding upon the beauty of grief are exactly my sentiments and experience of this too. it wasn't always that way, but i truly get this with every fiber of my being and which is why i have total embrace of physical death now without any fears. there truly is nothing we can't move through with grace, i believe. it's definitely a huge cleansing to move through the feelings so they don't become toxic and create dis-ease within the body, heart, mind, and soul. i feel closer to you always as you share the similarities in experiences. sending you and trinabinabunny so much love!! perhaps she and joy are together flying free! i love you mary! xoox

    • “There is something so beautiful about grief. Yes, it’s painful – the waves of deep longing for their physical presence, which is so so hard, but the love and gratitude for the relationship is so extremely deep and intense during an acute loss…”

      OMG that is profound enough to make me cry. Seriously, it did.

  4. Beautiful, powerful, and honest, Tania Marie. I’m sorry to hear about Joy’s transition … it’s a deep heart-ache to have our kindred spirits leave this life.

    “These are energetic waves we ride, but the ocean of emotions is all of this and none of this…” — beautifully spoken.

    Love,
    Jamie

    • thank you so so much jamie ❤ i feel your love in all that you share and your deep devotion to this conscious path of integrative experience. so appreciate your supportive words and love. big hugs xoox

  5. Camilla Downs

    I resonate incredibly with this … “Come back to yourself.

    Embrace every emotion and sensory feeling, as therein lies the gift of your humanity.

    All the colors of emotions are of value. They are all simply energy and part of Source experiencing itself through each wave of feeling that we have the free will to move through. We tend to deem some as better or worse, may avoid them, or deny some in favor of others. However there is a beauty and gift in feeling. Source does not hold judgment on feelings. It remains the unconditionally, detached observer of energy expressions. … ”

    And continue to be inspired by your sharing, my sharing, and the way it all intertwines. So much love to YOU for choosing the path of being the true YOU! xoxo

    • thank you for sharing your resonance with this. it’s such a beautiful thing to share of ourselves, as we discover and unravel so much more of who we are and connect that much more with others through the vulnerable transparency and expression. i honor your journey and send loving hugs your way. thank you for shining your light! xoox

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