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Moss Landing ~ A Soft Place To Put Stress To Rest


20160121_161331_resizedAs we continue our journey, for those who are following along or just interested in different areas as either an already RV nomad, intending one day to be, or simply curious about areas to travel to, I’ll continue to post photos and little tidbits about each spot, along with what inspirations and reflections come through where I am.

20160121_161211_resizedWe came to land yesterday in Moss Landing, just 19 miles north of Monterey, CA. The RV park is different than our previous ones with views, but still quaint, park-like with grass areas, trees, and shrubs, very roomy and quiet (likely since off-season), and very well-situated.

We can see the tops of boats in the marina, still hear sea lions barking, and sea gulls all around.20160121_160845_resized

After touching down yesterday and setting up, we decided to get the lay of the land, which revealed how lovely our location was with a bunch of things all within minutes of walking.20160121_171213_resized20160121_171249_resized20160121_160258_resized20160121_171123_resized20160121_171132_resized

There’s this eclectic, old little town (where Hawk greeted me), a few small galleries, the marina (where sea lions were swimming), a bird sanctuary reminding me of the Back Bay in Newport Beach (Great Blue Heron showed up along with a pair of giant white Pelicans and many smaller birds, Sand Pipers, and Cottontail Rabbits), and a wonderful wide sand beach looking out at the vast ocean that has a sand bar that breaks the waves far out.20160121_165157_resized20160121_170513_resized20160121_170630_resized20160121_162158_resized

We even came upon an area where it appeared someone/others had just recently done a little sacred ceremony with Pelican feathers.20160121_164120_resized20160121_164214_resized20160121_164228_resized.jpg

A long walk just taking it all in with gratitude ended with stopping at one of the two Mexican restaurants – The Haute Enchilada Cafe ~ Social Club & Gallery – that are on either side of the RV park, for some happy hour appetizers and refreshments.20160121_171232_resized20160121_171503_resized20160121_171546_resized

They had fun brussels sprouts, squash blossom flautas, and guacamole topped with pomegranate seeds to accompany the chips and salsa – all local organic produce and some vegan and gluten free options. They even had a very spicy ginger beer for me. Woo!20160121_172853_resized

Both the staff at the restaurant and the RV park were all very sweet.20160121_171823_resized

The other Mexican restaurant is supposed to have a fresh fruit and veggie stand outside of it, so I’ll be sure to check that out today. We’ll only be here through Sunday, so plan to get into Monterey tomorrow for a little exploring on the Full Moon.

Until then, it’s another on and off rainy day here, which means another great day for work flow.

It also lends to deepening in reflection, which began yesterday on our walk, about the theme around stress.20160121_161821_resized

I’ve become so aware of who I am naturally, which is not the stressed, easily overwhelmed, nervous anxiety sensitive I learned and used to allow myself to be.

If I get moments of stress now, I am SO aware of it being a foreign presence that has temporarily come to visit my natural, flowing zone. Whereas before I would think and feel as if it WERE actually me and allowed it to control my life.

Now, I’m the constant observer of my life and recognize the energies and triggers that float in and know how to quickly have them flow right through and out again – thanking them for their gift.20160121_163728_resized20160121_163906_resized

I’m navigating the boat I sail and know how to shift my sails to go with the currents and wind. It’s taken years of work, but it’s paid off.

Stress isn’t an invader or something I fear, repress, or try to run from. Stress has become a helpful friend that reminds me instantly of what truly is important, gets my focus back on the here and now, and allows me to see any healthy fears I can simply turn into the courage to be more of myself by embracing and embodying.

“How you think and act can transform your experience of stress. When you choose to view your stress response as helpful, you create the biology of courage. When you choose to connect with others under stress you can create resilience. Now I wouldn’t necessarily ask for more stress in my life, but you can see it as another access to your compassionate heart and to your pounding physical heart to give you strength and energy. You can trust yourself to handle life’s challenges and remember you don’t have to face them alone.”  ~Kelly McGonigal, Health Psychologist

No matter what it is, whether stress, how you feel about yourself, or any part of your life, beliefs will play an important role in repatterning. It’s not the only piece to the puzzle, but shifting perspectives is a huge key to revealing more ease, more answers, and providing more empowerment instantly.

Of course there are other parts to this that play a role and different ways to help yourself process the stress, including the importance of balance, not purposely taking on a crazy amount of things thinking that you’re invincible, nor taking on things out of unhealthy reasons like guilt, victimization, self-sacrifice, self-sabotage, or martyrdom, for instance.

Yet what Kelly shares can begin a new inner dialogue of holistic support that will help to promote reduction in unhealthy stress perceptions that will lead you to healthier perceptions and increased connection, which ultimately puts you on the track to overall well-being.

When you become aware of something, you take back your power to be the “whole” person that you are and realize the perfection inherent in the bigger picture.

Here are pieces of my own experiences and insights on the perception of stress working “for” me and the importance of it leading me to connect with others in my post from a couple of years ago:

Stress, Overwhelment, Anxiety…Spirituality Isn’t An Immunity Pass, But Does Seed You With The Alchemy Of Awareness To Shift It

20160121_162225_resizedThe more we’ve been RV living, the evermore I’m deepening into embodiment of who I naturally am and for that I’m grateful.

Every time we land somewhere new I’m retrieving parts of myself and brightening the heart light within me.

Life has increasingly become balanced, peace-filled, integrative, and natural.

The gifts I’m learning and embodying, I know will continue to live long after this adventure comes to closure.

But in the meantime, I’m seeing how it’s supporting me to the next level of living in natural harmony that I needed and desired.

As I see these beautiful environments, the animals, Nature herself, and the creative expressions and myriad of experiences around me, they are all reflecting what’s innately within me.

From there I know I have the power to do with them as they were intended….return to me.20160121_164437_resized

There’s a soft, but potent energy here – I felt it as soon as we arrived with energy in my Crown – which has softened another layer of my understanding “stress.”

I hope that in sharing the wonder I am seeing through my eyes, that your own collective eyes will find the pieces of your truth in their reflection too.

How To Make Stress Your Friend


Last night we were listening to some TedTalks on the way home and this one stood out as one to share, as it not only is a topic that affects so many people, but it also points to two of the things I wrote about on the subject of stress that are now backed by studies.

Don’t you just love how science catches up with spirituality more and more? 😉

Kelly McGonigal is a health psychologist who shifted her own perspective of how she was treating her patients and how she herself was viewing stress, when she discovered that what she was teaching over the last 10 years was doing more harm than good, which basically was “turning stress into the enemy”. After researching the studies, she rethought her whole approach, as the studies proved that a person’s belief about stress was the culprit to decreased health and even mortality, rather than stress itself.

Kelly now urges people to see stress as positive and to realize that it also makes you social.

These are my favorite statements she shares:

“How you think and act can transform your experience of stress. When you choose to view your stress response as helpful, you create the biology of courage. When you choose to connect with others under stress you can create resilience.

Now I wouldn’t necessarily ask for more stress in my life, but you can see it as another access to your compassionate heart and to your pounding physical heart to give you strength and energy. You can trust yourself to handle life’s challenges and remember you don’t have to face them alone.”

No matter what it is, whether stress, how you feel about yourself, or any part of your life, beliefs will play an important role in repatterning. It’s not the only piece to the puzzle, but shifting perspectives is a huge key to revealing more ease, more answers, and providing more empowerment instantly.

Of course there are other parts to this that play a role and different ways to help yourself process the stress, including the importance of balance, not purposely taking on a crazy amount of things thinking that you’re invincible, nor taking on things out of unhealthy reasons like guilt, victimization, self-sacrifice, self-sabotage, or martyrdom, for instance.

Yet what Kelly shares can begin a new inner dialogue of holistic support that will help to promote reduction in unhealthy stress perceptions that will lead you to healthier perceptions and increased connection, which ultimately puts you on the track to overall well-being.

When you become aware of something, you take back your power to be the “whole” person that you are and realize the perfection inherent in the bigger picture.

Here are pieces of my own insights on the perception of stress working “for” me and the importance of it leading me to connect with others in my post, Stress, Overwhelment, Anxiety…Spirituality Isn’t An Immunity Pass, But Does Seed You With The Alchemy Of Awareness To Shift It, which echo Kelly’s thoughts from the studies:

Remember, life challenges are the ones we choose and are there to support the transformational evolvement that we knew would assist us in being that which we are and always were behind the illusions and fluff. Varying degrees of stress are not bad, but our perspective and approach can shift them into being the natural parts of human experience that they are.

You are a luminous being seeking to know and express yourself and sometimes the rate of expansion you go through can be overwhelming at times. The key is to make a conscious choice to perceive the reality before you as a perfect set of divine experiences working FOR your highest good, not AGAINST it….

In my own journey of learning how to move through stress, I also learned it was helpful for me to have a heart-to-heart with those near and dear to me to share with them what my protocol is when I get stressed and that it isn’t personal. I also shared with them the things that I feel and how that makes me act, as well as shared the things in that moment that would be helpful for me and asked if they were willing to assist me with the process. Things like not reacting to the momentary stress I am blowing out of proportion, just listening to me, helping me to stop and encourage taking a different approach, etc. That coupled with the things I was putting into practice, all would help me to be able to shift my process and speed up the time in which I could do it.

While it is up to us to make the changes, we aren’t islands unto ourselves. Remember that your stress is also felt and experienced by everyone around you and there’s no reason you can’t ask help from your loved ones for some of the supportive ingredients that can assist you. Chances are, they would love to help out, as they don’t want to see you stressed and they don’t want to react in ways that they feel bad about, or that add to your stress. And when you engage them in your process, they will also learn more about their own, feel more open to sharing things they go through and how you might support them, and in totality a closer connection and depth to your relationship is created.

Stress, Overwhelment, Anxiety…Spirituality Isn’t An Immunity Pass, But Does Seed You With The Alchemy Of Awareness To Shift It


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Me In Peru at the Dimensional Gateway – Amaru Muru

A couple of days ago on Facebook I shared a post about “overwhelment” and the personal messages that later came in to me, said to me that this is a topic that really hit home for people. So I decided to repost it here and to expound upon it to support everyone that is currently experiencing this or has felt it at some point, as I know we all have. 😉

To begin with, I am actually quite well-versed in stress. Stress, nervous anxiety, overwhelment, feelings of pressure….all of that was my expertise not only in experiencing, but in being quite well-adapted in repressing it so that no one knew. That can actually be even worse, as you don’t get it out like others do and it can reek havoc on your health and well-being, little by little internally attacking yourself to a slow, soul death, not to mention can be trickier to unlearn.

But unlearn I have, which is a process of identifying the root of all of these self-created ways I was choosing to be, learning what my triggers were, understanding why I was allowing myself to get emotionally worked up and what I thought I was appeasing or making up for with all the crazed drive, realizing what I was missing and not allowing in my life, and coming to realize who I was naturally and what things would help me return there.

I had to understand my processes, as well as the ingenious self-sabotaging ones. And once I could see it all and responsibly claim it, it was then a day-by-day, moment-to-moment practice of gently reprogramming the conditional me back into reboot of the real me.

When you start integrating a spiritual approach to living, this doesn’t automatically make you immune to stress. Stress isn’t isolated to nonspiritual people, as many people who are spiritually focused stress over all the things they think they still “have” to do or “need” to learn and accomplish, stress over being perfect or expert about something, still stress over performance, stress about keeping up appearances to match the spiritual lifestyle they appear to be living, and even stress over comparing themselves to others….

If you haven’t uncovered your patterns and processes, as well as core motivating factors behind the stress, then you are likely to repeat creating stressful experiences, but they will just appear in the guise of different clothing. I know many people, including myself, that can and have worked on overdrive even when being of service.

The reason for this, is not fully understanding what it means to be of true service, which is walking an authentic and fully integrated life of balance within divine flow so that you have the ability to give from your own well. Teaching love, compassion, and balance must start within you. Knowing how to always get back to your center is something we have to reteach ourselves, but it isn’t unnatural to us, contrary to the limited times you may feel it in your busy life.

I saw this in my own process in the beginning, where I was living a spiritual life for the most part, but there were core patterns that were still operating out of the old, which would manifest as doing things the same “old” way, but just substituting in a new life. I had woven in an overlap of the old foundation into the new ways and the two don’t work together – at least not in the flowing, freeing, balancing way we desire. There must be consistency, which means fully releasing the old and firmly rooting the new.

That being said, when you do choose to practice spiritually conscious awareness, you can learn to shorten the time gaps in which you experience the “seeming” pressures, anxiety, and tension. So it’s not that stress never creeps up again for you, but you become well-versed and well-equipped to know how to allow and move the energy through naturally, so you can regain your sense of centered balance and empowerment rather quickly. In this way, learning to emulate nature and how things just cycle through.

Once you tune in to you and begin to understand your personal patterns and triggers, you become aware of the processes to rebalance yourself and can sometimes instantly shift the experience, or at least decrease the length of time you are out of flow.

The key is to put to practice, repetitively and consistently, habitual expression of your awareness every day and commit to the process of responsibly regaining your center through implementing the tools that you know work for you. Then remember to be gentle and nonjudgmental with yourself as you allow your soul to guide you into experiences that are in alignment with your individual growth needs.

Remember, life challenges are the ones we choose and are there to support the transformational evolvement that we knew would assist us in being that which we are and always were behind the illusions and fluff. Varying degrees of stress are not bad, but our perspective and approach can shift them into being the natural parts of human experience that they are.

You are a luminous being seeking to know and express yourself and sometimes the rate of expansion you go through can be overwhelming at times. The key is to make a conscious choice to perceive the reality before you as a perfect set of divine experiences working FOR your highest good, not AGAINST it. Take a deep breath and remember how you moved through these challenges before and put to practice the things that have worked and the things you have learned. We learn to grow through it and find that our heart light shines brighter because of it all.

And if you haven’t yet discovered what works for you, start implementing things to find your golden ticket to freedom.

I do realize that stress causes confusion and emotional turbulence, so when you are in the heat of a stress attack, it is challenging to even see your way out of it clearly, let alone think rationally. So this is why taking a step back and perhaps even enlisting the help of a trusted expert to help, can allow you to start seeing with different eyes the way you currently approach things vs. the way you could be approaching them.

In my own journey of learning how to move through stress, I also learned it was helpful for me to have a heart-to-heart with those near and dear to me to share with them what my protocol is when I get stressed and that it isn’t personal. I also shared with them the things that I feel and how that makes me act, as well as shared the things in that moment that would be helpful for me and asked if they were willing to assist me with the process. Things like not reacting to the momentary stress I am blowing out of proportion, just listening to me, helping me to stop and encourage taking a different approach, etc. That coupled with the things I was putting into practice, all would help me to be able to shift my process and speed up the time in which I could do it.

While it is up to us to make the changes, we aren’t islands unto ourselves. Remember that your stress is also felt and experienced by everyone around you and there’s no reason you can’t ask help from your loved ones for some of the supportive ingredients that can assist you. Chances are, they would love to help out, as they don’t want to see you stressed and they don’t want to react in ways that they feel bad about, or that add to your stress. And when you engage them in your process, they will also learn more about their own, feel more open to sharing things they go through and how you might support them, and in totality a closer connection and depth to your relationship is created.

Some other things people find helpful when feeling stressed are: meditation, breathing exercises, talking it out, chanting mantras, creating your own personal mantras, listening to calming music, singing, physical exercise, being out in nature, doing something that you love, yoga, aromatherapy, Reiki, being still and quiet, time alone in your sacred space, working with crystals, spending time with your animal companions, creative expression, writing….whatever it is, remember that these are tools to remind you of the space you can enter into by “will”, even without these things, but they will be supportive ways to help remind you that nothing you feel is out of your control.

And one day, you will find that you don’t “need” any of these things anymore, although may now find them to be a natural part of your preferred way of life, and that you can become your own alchemy for centering yourself.

And then, life becomes a walking meditation in and of itself.

Feelings of overwhelment are not actually natural. They are created by unrealistic and unauthentic ideas, as well as self-imposed pressures that do not take into account the natural flow of energy. It is instead a need or way of controlling energy rather than listening to it, feeling it, and riding the wave of it. Unrealistic pressures merely create stress and anxiety, which produces unhealthiness.

What is it that makes you feel the need to rush anything or unduly impose such limiting and unnatural parameters on yourself?

When you stop trying to “make” things happen, you can actually “relax” into what is for your highest good and the highest good of all others, which will reveal itself in supportive guideposts along the way. Doing things faster or harder isn’t going to make the results any better and you just might bypass an opportunity, as well as risk your well being along the way.

It just isn’t worth it to force anything. Try committing to feeling, rather than thinking your way through life. Then use your mind to make wise discernment rather than make unwise demands.

It is possible to become more balanced and when you do, your life shifts exponentially and actually becomes more magickal.

I’m not just someone writing or talking about what can be achieved, without having lived it. My life has transformed into a reflection of the me I always knew myself to be, but had accepted a different alternative version of, which left little joy, but a lot of frustration.

Now, if I experience a moment of stress, I instantly or within minutes can shift it and redirect so that the real source of energy behind it is able to flow and I can then be with the clarity of listening to what is true to my heart.

What is available to one is available to us all. You too, have the ability to find the key to your balance and heart center, and to realize that nothing in life is as serious as you think. When you take care of you, you not only are an example of your life working for others to emulate in their own way, but you will also be universally supported because of that recognition you have come to own.

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