Money & Manifesting….What are the Barriers to Your Abundance? ~ Are You Ready to Get Real About What’s Really Limiting You?
Being, doing, and having….
“We can think of life having three dimensions: being, doing, and having. Often we attempt to live our lives backwards. We try to have more money in order to feel we can do more of what we want, so we can be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. We must first be who we really are, then do what we feel guided to do, in order to have what we want.”
~ I allow myself to be; I do what feels right; I have everything I truly want. ~
In yesterday’s Reiki Master Teacher workshop, the theme of the day seemed to be about “manifestation.” It kicked off the day in a pre-discussion to our training, came up again during our training, and again later during our dinner outing.
Discussions about Reiki will often lead into discussions on how to live a magickal, empowered, and abundant life, since the practice of embodying the essence of Reiki and consistently practicing it will naturally create more of this in our lives.
But this is not just a topic from yesterday, but one that so very often comes up (more and more) every time I hear people voicing frustration about things like money, not living the life they want, and not being able to do things they want to do because of lack of abundance, etc.
People have shared over and over that they are challenged with manifesting things, especially when it comes to money and fully being abundant.
Some of this I believe stems from our having gone so far mentally and spiritually, that we forgot to integrate things and bring things back into the body for EMBODIMENT rather than ascending into the ethers and floating off on a cloud. After all, remember we are humans with physical bodies. If you want to manifest things, they can’t just stay in your mind or as a concept you talk about. You’ll need to actually integrate that knowledge and conscious awareness into actualization. Work with your feelings, core beliefs, and what’s trapped in the body.
Abundant doesn’t mean you have to be a millionaire, but it does mean that you are living in a giving AND receiving flow of abundance that always supports your needs and the desires that will benefit your well being for the highest good.
This often comes up when people tell me how much they truly desire and know they need to go on one of the sacred journeys/retreats I and others offer, and yet year after year it will not happen because of not having the “money” for it.
Or, they won’t take that course, won’t go talk to someone like a life coach to get them through the blocks, won’t make time to read an important book, can’t find the time to be in nature or do something nurturing for themselves because they are too busy working hard at attaining money, stressing about it, and filling their lives up with a vicious cycle of things that aren’t balancing them and adding supportive benefit…etc.
I have done as much possible to support people, especially when I see their potential and deep desire, and assist with these kinds of things. I’ve offered huge discounts, payment plans, even in special cirumstances – personal loans to repay.
But as they say, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.
Unless you hand something over to someone for free (and even then it STILL doesn’t always happen due to fear in general) it is easier for most to live with the familiar discomfort than to branch out into the unknown discomfort that will free them.
On some level, the challenges we experience serve us, even if it doesn’t consciously make sense. And the answer isn’t in enabling people, but in empowering them, as EVERY single person innately is abundant. In order to access that abundance, we each need to make personal, accountable, responsible choices to consciously embody that.
I’ve seen people on both ends of the spectrum. Those that let fear take over, or allow their beliefs to dictate their every action with excuse after excuse. And I’ve seen people who have looked the “impossible” in the eye, didn’t have a clue how it would take place, replaced fear with committed drive, and created the possible out of nowhere. But these people acted “as if” what they wanted was happening and took the steps with trust.
This really becomes clear to observe in terms of things like retreats where larger sums of money are concerned, and self nurturing, self value, and life-changing potentials are part of the equation.
These are bigger risks and greater challenges that really bring out our deepest and core beliefs and fears.
And yet, over and over I’ve seen magick take place with people who have come on retreats that had no means to do it and suddenly created it because of following that inner calling and now they are on their path in ways they had always hoped. They wouldn’t be where they are now, had they not taken those huge leaps.
This is just one type of example, but comes up over and over in emails, messages, and exchanges I receive sometimes daily. And while I feel for these people, truly understanding what they are experiencing from personal experience, I also ask them the question, “why can’t you do such and such?” This is met most times without a response (silence) or the list of patterned declarations that still aren’t touching the real reason at hand start rolling out robotically.
Yesterday, one of my students shared with us his magickal story of how he manifested a trip he knew he needed to take spiritually, and then went on to share all the little synchronous things that made it possible when there was no way in sight for him to do it.
I shared similar stories of others I know, including myself.
There are just some things that hold a value far past what you can comprehend. We talked later that evening on how some things, like “experiences” are simply invaluable and are much more powerful than any single item you can buy yourself. The intrinsic value of trips, for example, contributes to a higher quality of life, along with providing benefits that will long continue after you’ve returned home in terms of memories, energetic shifts and activations, inspiration and self nurturing, connecting you with parts of yourself and with others you wouldn’t otherwise, invites more new and expansive experiences, etc.
Personally, I’m far from rich, by any societal standard, but I believe myself to be abundant. To me abundant means there is a flow in and out of energy on all levels. I know that my needs are always met, and I know that the things that are really important for me, will always be supported. But I then live my life with the knowing this is true, as if it already is, despite it not being at the moment in my outer environment. My internal environment is living otherwise.
That’s not to mean I don’t run up against stress now and then, but it only lasts briefly once I remind myself of all of the similar circumstances where I have always created a way and it all always worked out for the highest good.
We may all have different ideas and definitions on what abundance means…but to me it is this and it is living a magickal life where all these little and large synchronous alignments just come together at each turn. That even when challenges arise, this is simply opportunity to rise to the occasion and stretch our abilities a little bit more.
I live an abundant life and believe in myself as an abundant being. I never see something as impossible even if I haven’t a clue how it could happen based on what I have or don’t have now – this is all just external illusions, as I have everything I need within me awaiting my choice to unleash that powerful realization. I simply know that if something is important for me, there will always be a way and doors will open, as I move forward with trust.
It’s the same way I manifested my upcoming trip to Iceland and any other personal trips I have taken for my own well being (which ultimately trickles to how I can be of benefit to the collective) and path. I knew I needed to go on a deep level, and the way presented itself magickally.
Stresses over money are usually a lot of the reasoning why people feel they can’t do something, but what is the true culprit to this challenge?
Every time someone tells me they don’t have the money, I’m not hearing that….what I actually DO hear is many other things/beliefs that are running the show at the root of it all, which may include one or more of the following:
- It’s really not that important to me, as I say it is
- My needs can wait or such and such needs to be in place and happen before I can do that (creating controls and unrealistic conditions/ideas of perfection that will never be met until the person shifts their values)
- I really don’t want the responsibility that comes along with the life-enhancements, empowerment and changes I will experience
- I am scared to embrace my personal power and gifts
- I’m afraid to overextend myself momentarily, for what I can’t SEE possible and even though the abundance is just on the other side of that fear ready to flow when I make the decision to move forward and choose what I want
- I don’t value myself enough/I’m not deserving and others will think I’m being selfish if I invest in my own well-being
- There’s no way I can manifest that amount of money. I am not that powerful. I’ve always been told how incapable I am of anything
- Money doesn’t grow on trees, is something you have to work hard for, is the root of all evil, should not be used on so-called “frivolous” things (someone else’s definition of what that is)
- If I spend the money for what’s important to me, what then? Money won’t keep on flowing in my life even if I am able to manifest it this time
- I fear the unknown and what comes next when I realize truths about myself after the opening experience
- I’d rather spend money on “things” that satisfy my immediate needs rather than focusing on long-term benefit
- And the list goes on….we all have at one time or another had one or more of these belief voices running our show, and then some
There’s nothing wrong with this, as it all has its purpose in our personal growth. But if we want to express the REAL truth about why we feel we can’t do something, it will be much more productive and empowering to get to the heart of the matter and be willing to look deeper at what’s behind our beliefs. Once we do this, we may just find the culprit/s holding us back from our natural abundance.
So yesterday I shared that if you have a challenge with money, it’s important to look at your relationship to it. And this goes for anything.
Your relationship to something involves your beliefs, which include all of the conditioned beliefs both from childhood, parent figures, society, collective patterning and conditioning, which are operating even if in your mind you don’t think that way.
These core beliefs will show you exactly where the challenge is.
It doesn’t matter what we think…it matters what we feel, believe, and are holding in our bodies, as core acquired truths.
Your inability to manifest stems from fears, beliefs, personal limitations, and blocked energy flows.
If you truly want to do something, I believe you CAN do it. The question is, how much do you really want it, and what are you willing to do to support that desire? The Universe will support you only if YOU take the actions in partnership with it. You will need to show how serious you are by doing something to demonstrate your wanting/believing/trusting. THEN you will start to see things shift. And in the meantime, you can work on your core beliefs and relationship to them to support swifter changes and larger and more frequent manifestations.
But these days there are SOOOO many ways to support you with what you want like in the example of needing to manifest money for something you want to do – be it a trip, starting a business, taking a class, seminar, workshop, course, buying equipment needed for your project or business idea, taking college courses to help with your path, funding a dream, etc. The more willing and open you are to think, feel, imagine, and act creatively, the more possibilities will come to you on ways to do it. I’ve seen and heard from many on how they have manifested what they wanted by being vulnerable and asking for help, along with shifting their beliefs and actions.
Some have turned to family and friends that believed in and supported them, providing loans, partial or full financial support, sharing of airline mileage, etc. Some have been willing to ask or take others up on offers of payment plans, asking if there are partial or full trade opportunities, discounts, etc.
And others have found collective ways to find that support through different funding options that are now out there like these:
Peer to Peer Lending:
MUST READ !!! Wrong Yoda Was: The Force of Fear . . . (article and personal comments – in red – thanks to Bamboo-Water :) ~J
Great article…helpful in rewiring all of the programming that has and is being accepted. This goes along with my own writings on how fear is not the enemy and can be our greatest ally, teacher and gift of wisdom when embraced and transmuted.
As this article shares: “Instead of saying we need to shift from fear to love, we could say that we need to shift from unconscious fear to conscious fear. Then it is very simple to experience both conscious fear and love simultaneously–we understand they are not inherently opposed to one another.”
Lee closes out 2014 with some great thoughts to reflect on and integrate.
From dreams to fears, and discernment to feeling, he hits on some key energies to understand more fully.
Lee reminds us that dreams are a way to process things so that we don’t have to experience them in our waking lives. This is the reason for their intensity and scariness at times. It does not always mean a foreshadowing of something, but a way to work things out in a way that saves us from something worse.
As always, he shares the importance of feeling the energy around you and being very in tune with yourself and those frequencies that are yours and not yours. This involves discernment and realizing that each person is very unique and so our experiences and ways of doing things will be equally unique. This also means that we will need to embrace the fact that at times we will be leaders in a way and need to go it alone, but with respect for others and their paths, and at times we will meet with others in the same place and feel that kindred connection.
If you’re very open and free-spirited this realization is important in understanding with compassion that others may not be able to meet us in the same openness and to detach from having to do anything about that or feel triggered, or judge it in anyway. This is when your courage is being needed to continue forth and just be you.
There will be times of going back and forth between feeling expansive and contracted – I so relate to this – but this is simply part of the evolution of things in these very open times we are in where there really is a new freeness that has yet to be experienced. I feel that with each contraction, the expansion doubles or more.
As Lee shares, to be with this new openness “allow yourself to realize that you don’t know who you are anymore, you don’t recognize this planet much anymore, and you’re going to do things in very different ways to how you did them before regardless of how other people might like or not like that.” – I can so relate!
You have the ability to really move forward in your life by the dissolving and destruction of old things in a way that will no longer have you being hostage to this old.
I have seen this so much in my personal experience and relating with others where I used to feel this pattern of helping others and couldn’t break away from it when it obviously became toxic and there was no indication that the people were wanting to or ever going to actually shift. This is something I have worked hard to release and dissolve in my own life, so as not to be energetic hostage to these kinds of experiences where I don’t feel like my expansive, free, and open self, but instead am feeling contracted, confined, and a prisoner of my own making. I now choose to live my own life and will not be defined by anything, nor a prisoner to anything that feels confining, draining, or like a reining in of my energy. And that includes going where I haven’t gone before and holding hands with fear and shadows, for they are the fuel to my most expansive potentials.
Fear energy, as Lee shares, is making things very electric and that involves this purpose of freeing you from being a prisoner to it. If you feel like you’re always being “dragged under the ocean,” as Lee puts it, then you’ll need to strategize how to create more space and peace for yourself. But for those of you who have been feeling more open than ever before, fear actually becomes your ally and it isn’t something that indicates an intuitive nudge or sign necessarily to steer away from, but indicates stepping into something very new for you that you haven’t yet experienced and so it is about courageously dancing with fear even though it feels uncomfortable.
Lots of good stuff. Much love to everyone!
“For me, trees have always been the most penetrating preachers. I revere them when they live in tribes and families, in forests and groves. And even more I revere them when they stand alone. They are like lonely persons. Not like hermits who have stolen away out of some weakness, but like great, solitary men, like Beethoven and Nietzsche. In their highest boughs the world rustles, their roots rest in infinity; but they do not lose themselves there, they struggle with all the force of their lives for one thing only: to fulfil themselves according to their own laws, to build up their own form, to represent themselves. Nothing is holier, nothing is more exemplary than a beautiful, strong tree. When a tree is cut down and reveals its naked death-wound to the sun, one can read its whole history in the luminous, inscribed disk of its trunk: in the rings of its years, its scars, all the struggle, all the suffering, all the sickness, all the happiness and prosperity stand truly written, the narrow years and the luxurious years, the attacks withstood, the storms endured. And every young farmboy knows that the hardest and noblest wood has the narrowest rings, that high on the mountains and in continuing danger the most indestructible, the strongest, the ideal trees grow.
Trees are sanctuaries. Whoever knows how to speak to them, whoever knows how to listen to them, can learn the truth. They do not preach learning and precepts, they preach, undeterred by particulars, the ancient law of life.
A tree says: A kernel is hidden in me, a spark, a thought, I am life from eternal life. The attempt and the risk that the eternal mother took with me is unique, unique the form and veins of my skin, unique the smallest play of leaves in my branches and the smallest scar on my bark. I was made to form and reveal the eternal in my smallest special detail.
A tree says: My strength is trust. I know nothing about my fathers, I know nothing about the thousand children that every year spring out of me. I live out the secret of my seed to the very end, and I care for nothing else. I trust that God is in me. I trust that my labor is holy. Out of this trust I live.
When we are stricken and cannot bear our lives any longer, then a tree has something to say to us: Be still! Be still! Look at me! Life is not easy, life is not difficult. Those are childish thoughts. Let God speak within you, and your thoughts will grow silent. You are anxious because your path leads away from mother and home. But every step and every day lead you back again to the mother. Home is neither here nor there. Home is within you, or home is nowhere at all.
A longing to wander tears my heart when I hear trees rustling in the wind at evening. If one listens to them silently for a long time, this longing reveals its kernel, its meaning. It is not so much a matter of escaping from one’s suffering, though it may seem to be so. It is a longing for home, for a memory of the mother, for new metaphors for life. It leads home. Every path leads homeward, every step is birth, every step is death, every grave is mother.
So the tree rustles in the evening, when we stand uneasy before our own childish thoughts: Trees have long thoughts, long-breathing and restful, just as they have longer lives than ours. They are wiser than we are, as long as we do not listen to them. But when we have learned how to listen to trees, then the brevity and the quickness and the childlike hastiness of our thoughts achieve an incomparable joy. Whoever has learned how to listen to trees no longer wants to be a tree. He wants to be nothing except what he is. That is home. That is happiness.”
~Hermann Hesse, Baume. Betrachtungen und Gedichte (Trees. Reflections and Poems)
I’ve learned that I simply don’t want, nor can afford, to put energy into things and experiences that no longer serve, and truly aren’t aligned with, what I’m guided to create from the essence of my natural frequency, as that not only affects my well-being, but my ability to be of greatest service for the highest good and to people who are also taking accountability in their lives.
Realizing where my time and energy would be better focused for that greater good supports embrace of Divine timing and flow of all things to take place, which creates that magickal alignment.
This also creates the basis for profound change that comes from within and stems from a more natural alignment with what is core to me, rather than a displacement of my desires to be in that alignment.
Like some of you, I have felt guided to withdraw physically from many things in order to actually be able to give more, which is through my own transmutation into who I am in essence.
This has involved, and will continue to involve, a lot of life readjustments, reorganization, review, and release, in order to focus on what is of most soul-benefit right now to be engaged with. It takes me on a journey through the shadows, as well as the light, so that I may bring a fuller depth of understanding to the choices I make and the creations that therefore will birth in greater wholeness.
One of my only outlets of connection, besides my work and personal life, is via this blog, where I share much of what feels important, inspiring, and creatively supportive to impart.
I share a lot of my personal journey whether literally or symbolically through my blog, as a means of support to others that I know go through similar experiences and might feel alone in that process, or like no one understands it.
It’s okay to change your mind, it’s okay to find new inspiration, and to admit you are feeling stifled even in the role others may respect and admire you for being in currently. This is a sign of growth and natural evolution. And as you let go of those “roles”, you are able to walk through new doorways of experience that provide the opportunities for expansive breath into new freedom that perhaps is less defined, but more expansively amorphous to what is energetically reflective of the nature of now.
I’m quite the shape-shifter that embraces change and I am willing to put that out there when it shows up, as I believe that change is the natural process of life and the one thing you can count on always being a part of it, whether you embrace it or not.
I’ve shared before that it has become increasingly important for me to shift gears and to let go of a lot of things that feel complete at this time in many areas of my life. This, in order to embody more of my essence and consciously create a new paradigm of experience I am called to, knowing that as I do so that it is the most responsible, accountable, and service related thing I can do by extension of BEING this.
This reflects in the expression of my creative life force/work I am called to do and also the life choices I make. So you HAVE seen, and WILL continue to see a lot of shifts in these regards from me.
For me, my original soul missions have and are coming to closure, which leaves me with expansive choices to make from a different essence place of myself. That is both exciting and can also invite much unknown that calls for greater courage, deeper trust, and full-on heart immersion, since this opens a wider realm of possibilities where things are revealed only moment to moment, as well as shift moment to moment.
That wasn’t quite the game before, as I did have foresight and an understanding of what I had set out to do. Now, I am really creating anew and in a state of reclaiming sovereign free will on a whole other level.
Much of what has been evolving for some of us in integration lives, is closure to a lot of what we originally set forth to accomplish, if in fact we’ve been doing the work. This has been happening increasingly since the last couple of years. And yet, in many ways, the realization of that hasn’t caught up for some, and in other ways some are caught in a perpetual, one-directional spiral, not realizing they have the ability to create a new spiral expanding out in many other directions.
And still yet for some, perhaps there is a place of comfort you’ve “arrived” at and are ceasing to stretch yourself into another level of evolution that has been nudging you.
Of course it’s well deserved to take a rest and break after much work I know many have been doing. But complacency and that sense of “arrival” you may have been pursuing, can be a hindrance not only to your own growth potentials, but to the collective at large.
Personally, I don’t feel okay with being complacent and just because I get to a place where I become really good at something I’ve been doing for a while and what people come to expect or connect me with, I know it is not for me to stay there, and to continue to step into another level to deepen and expand my experience, as well as to be of greatest service to others through that process and embodiment.
That may not be the case for everyone, but for me, this involves recognizing the time for allowing others to take over in some ways, and assisting them in that process to do so, and to move into another role of bridging things from the radiance of my “beingness”, which I nurture by supporting what is true to it.
Things are ready, and will become ready, BECAUSE of your willingness to release into more of who you are and into what seem like new realms, but truly are the most natural, core expressions of you.
In this way of opening to more possibilities and limitless expansion, you create doorways for others to access the same.
And this involves changing the inner landscape so that it is aligned with all that you hold dear, rather than focusing on the outer ideals you are trying to live up to, convince yourself you are reflecting, or feel compelled to project change ON to.
The inward journey of embodying who you really are in this moment, and bringing that forth, rather than trying to emulate what you feel you “need” to, or “should”, be doing – trying to come up with an idea that you try to fit yourself into – can be exasperating, draining, disappointing, and in the end will not produce the results you desire because they aren’t consistent with who you really are. This will be felt by others, whether consciously or subconsciously, and will also draw to you the energy that reflects this inner inconsistency.
It will also defeat your efforts to create change around you, as if you are not truly embodying that which you desire to see changed in others, you have already set yourself up for disappointment.
I believe that one of the greatest fears is to admit that we may not be who we really think we are. The same fear that others are demonstrating in not wanting to change in the ways you desire, is the fear within self that isn’t able to reconcile a similar inner discrepancy.
I think that what would be valuable to the process is a willingness to be honest with ourselves, to be open to honest feedback from others and their reflections of our inconsistency, and to be mindful of the type of energy we are putting out there.
I think a willingness to accept when it’s time to move into a new level of you is key and this can reflect in many ways, adding on dimensions and layers to what you currently do, or completely shifting into new aspects of yourself most currently reflective. I feel that the willingness to let go of control in any one area that we’ve attained or become good in, recognizing timing and how others are now capable and ready to step into those realms can be very beneficial. This will assist in living from true abundance and connection to your collective family, whom will be grateful for your honoring of their ability to step into their new roles you may be leaving.
I know there are times you may feel the need to be all things and master it all now, and yet we each have different and constantly evolving roles that are there to be honored throughout the course of our journeys, as well as carried out by others when we have a greater personal calling and better use of our gifts elsewhere. I’ve also seen the scarcity and ego mentality of people claiming certain attainments, that are unwilling to support others into their fullness or to help them to take over some of the positions they hold or may have held, as there is an attachment and fear not just of wanting to hold on to that status, but of fear to move into a new role where at first it will again be new in feeling and like starting from the bottom. This can all end up revealing a potential, false abundance mentality that has not yet truly been embodied.
Yet, if truth be known, in actuality the new role you release yourself into will be the most natural and most expansive you’ve experienced so far, if you can get past that old fear pattern that yes, is still hanging on, regardless of the conscious claims you make.
Because, let’s face it…it’s scary to move beyond something you know really well, right? But a little healthy fear is the catalyst for great change. It’s not the enemy…it’s indication of your desire for the new (or rather, indication of the more “you”), nudging you to get all your parts in alignment for the inevitable.
And imagine now, if you will, the people who are on their beginning phases of their more conscious journey, or in their own transitional phase into the next change, then.
Remember how it may have felt to you before you got to where you are now feeling very comfortable, and remember how you feel now if you in fact are being nudged out of your comfort zone to yet ANOTHER new leg of your evolutionary journey? When you remember this feeling, maybe you can then share a bit more compassion and let up on your desires to exert effort outside of yourself so that you’ll have more energy to put toward your own changes, which will reflect so beautifully for the people who will benefit from your desires and efforts embodied, rather than projected.
As one door closes, another opens…and the doors you close, are the opening doors for others, and vice versa. We are always in a connective process that triggers a collective domino effect. So when we make courageous choices to change, others are simultaneously ready and able to do the same.
Life is always an experience of wholeness….we are both leading and following, teachers and students, changing and awaiting change, fearing and desiring change…. at the same time. If you can stand in the place of acknowledgment, and detachment from identifying solely with any of these, then you can just be with the process naturally.
We each affect change and provide a catalyst for each other, but it stems from what is taking place within and then embodied, inside out. We are all on different journeys and different places along those journeys. Increasingly it is becoming important to act responsibly, consciously (awareness is power), and to be accountable for what you embody, as well as seek from within.
Make the changes that are true to you and not some idealized version of you, or as an act of defiance, or guilt. And if you don’t yet know what that is, then make a commitment to start listening more so you can hear the subtle voice of your truth amidst all the “noise”, which can be both obvious and not obvious.
“For those of you who have exited your cocoon, your new mantra is, “Change is not Fearful.” You have perhaps focused on either emotional or physical issues and now you are likely moving into the opposite to learn that change is not fearful – just a ‘new normal’. There will be a time when change will be perceived as joyful. But for now, you’re learning it just is.”…..
“Some of you wish to stop a bit and learn how to love yourself. That is fine and good. Love is key to new earth. But part of that self-love is accepting your shifts and those of others without many, if any, visible changes.
Perhaps you expect those of the light to have some sort of halo about them so that you can tag them as important to your transition. In searching for that halo, you have listened to that channel, meditated with that teacher and drifted from thought to thought – hoping this or that person is the one who would anoint you as of the light. Just as your parents once told you that you reached certain stages in your life by allowing you more freedoms and responsibility.
You look for parents or community members to tell you that you are growing, shifting, changing. When in truth, they know as little as you do about this shift. There is no guru or parent to give you the parameters of the new you – there is only you.”
Control and coercion will not change behavior.
The more you rigidly try to force yourself or others, the more you and they will want to run away or fight.
Why are we so afraid of the passionate, unconventional and freely independent sides of ourselves?
Many times it is because of having been controlled ourselves that within that frustration and loss of self do we look to try and find some small feeling of control around us, and reenact the same upon others.
Sometimes it is the pure fear of unbridled choice and responsibility that has us trying to rein ourselves in.
When we recognize the fear inherent in these experiences, we can realize the price of breaking the spirit and the freedom and joy we’re losing out on supporting in one another.
This is a great article (below) that came to me by my friend, Hillary. I see this all the time with people – friends and clients alike, and more so recently. There’s this overwhelming “need” to do everything. Then they spread themselves out so much that they either get burned out, frustrated and stressed, or never really move forward in any big way with something they want.
Having exuberance toward things you want to create is a wonderful and propelling thing, however the excitement to “grasp” at it all can actually be counterproductive and lead you down some inefficient and sometimes sticky paths that may actually hold you back from what you wanted to create in the first place.
I have experienced this at different times in my life, in different ways. When I was much younger it was in the form of knowing intuitively that I really wanted to do “A”, but when all these invites from friends and different events showed up, I then was confused by this feeling of missing out and did “B”. However, when I disregarded my natural instinct to just take care of myself and be on my own, or do something more truly aligned with me in simple ways and instead sort of reluctantly, yet convincingly went ahead with the so-called “exciting” things I felt I was just holding myself back from if I didn’t go to, the same thing ALWAYS happened.
I ended up disappointed, frustrated, or resentful, and felt I had wasted my time and energy for a moment’s indulgence that left me feeling empty. The only value in it was about teaching me to listen better to myself and make more mirroring choices.
That said, of course there’s no right or wrong in our choices, but I do feel we can make more aligned ones that support our truth and well being, if we truly listen within.
The same has happened over recent years, where I saw that excitement take hold, but in the form of things more in line with who I am now, whenever I would manifest possibilities. I found myself saying yes to too many things and dispersing my energy and resources, getting myself involved in challenges my intuition knew better not to, and creating a more meandering path than direct. Things were showing up a lot and they all were within my realm of things I valued, but not all were necessary to be doing.
Again, no right or wrong, and in the end all things eventually can lead us to the exact experiences of growth that we need, just in more or less direct ways. However I now say “no” to a lot of things. Things that others may think to be awesome opportunities, but for me, I simply know there’s more to come and better aligned, or a better use of my time, energy, and resources right now.
And indeed that’s what I’ve experienced. I’ve learned to understand and listen to the things of most value, and my heart truly knows what those are. Not my head. Especially not, if there’s confusion around in any form. My mind is better used to help in asking the questions and assist with the discerning process, but my heart will be the guiding light.
Learning to say “no” wholeheartedly, is as important as knowing when to say “yes” wholeheartedly.
But possibilities are just what they are. Possibilities….Just because things come at you when you are working on manifesting things and you are starting to be more aligned with yourself, doesn’t mean that everything that comes to you is meant to be embraced and pursued. Sometimes it’s just a sign to you that your manifesting abilities are amping up and working, but discernment will lead you to the more supportive choices. Your intuition will guide you. If you don’t have that gut feeling right away, take the time to explore and ask questions about the possibility presenting itself, to weed out anything hidden, and to also weigh it against your goals, how much you have going on right now, is it a direct or round about way to get there, will it take away energy or resources from something else that is more important right now to focus on? etc…..
And guess what? There’s always something more and better on the way. We have the tendency to think this IS IT! We live in a limitless Universe. I guarantee you this is not ALL that there is. And that’s where trust comes in and your courage to harness your creative potentials to continually manifest in unlimited ways. Take the stuff that comes along, as sign posts to gauge the process you are training yourself in every day. Yet, keep on driving through to the next destination, as it does continue to get better. And in the meantime, you will nurture yourself in important ways, by keeping balanced, attending to your needs on all levels, keep focused, and enjoying life more and create more.
No, you don’t have to go to every event there is, even if it is aligned with who you are. Nor, say yes to every friend invite. And no, you don’t have to take every opportunity, nor read every book, or go to every seminar….Taking the present moment to be present and find the gratitude, joy, and value in everything – not just what you think you should value or that others are doing and say is of value – is when you really start to live fully. Fully living isn’t having to experience it all. It’s knowing you are fully living right here and now if it’s with all of your heart.
Here’s the article by Catherine Chen, Ph.D.:
If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you. ~Saint Thomas
Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them. Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it. ~Rabindranath Tagore
I will not die an unlived life. I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire. I choose to inhabit my days, to allow my living to open me, to make me less afraid, more accessible, to loosen my heart until it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise. I choose to risk my significance; to live so that which comes to me as seed goes to the next as blossom and that which comes to me as blossom, goes on as fruit. ~Dawna Markova
I find that one of the biggest hurdles right now that many are having to face is that of courage in the face of fear – finding that our hearts are stronger than the voices in our heads and the conditioning of our experiences and “pasts.” It’s not that fears completely dissipate, but we learn to process them differently, put them into perspective, understand them and in essence, master them. In doing so they no longer control us, rather, we become empowered and decide for ourselves what we want to experience. This is the time to put all fears aside and to step into our authentic power so that we may share our gifts in passionate and compassionate service to others. Many are embracing this at this time and can be examples and guiding lights in the process. Fears are the manifestations of the hindrances we are experiencing in varying and seemingly arbitrary forms. I know it is challenging, but I am right there with you on this journey. This is your time and the energy of the now is supporting your integration into “being.”
One of my favorite animated movies, The Secret of Nimh, amongst many of its very potent messages, shares this “courage of the heart” beautifully in this scene where Mrs. Brisby is about to lose her children as their house collapses in the mud:
“Courage of the heart is very rare…the stone has a power when its there.”
Here are some more inspiring quotes on courage in the face of fear:
“It’s OK to have butterflies in your stomach. Just get them to fly in formation.” Helen Keller
“I never take counsel of my fears.” General George Patton
“The key to change…is to let go of fear.” Rosanne Cash
“Courage is the art of being the only one who knows you’re scared to death.” Harold Wilson
“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” Sven Goran Eriksson
“If you wait to do everything until you’re sure it’s right, you’ll probably never do much of anything.” Win Borden
“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.” John Maxwell
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. Christopher Robin to Pooh.” A. A. Milne
“A ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for.” William Shedd
“Stand facing the sun and the shadows fall behind you.” from a school blackboard in Whitby
“I always knew that one day I would take this road but yesterday I did not know today would be the day.” Nagarjuna
“He lives the poetry that he cannot write. The others write the poetry that they dare not realise.” Oscar Wilde
“Confront the dark parts of yourself and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength.” August Wilson
“What we seek we shall find; what we flee from flees from us.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.” Mark Twain
“Arise, awake and don’t stop until the goal is achieved.” Swami Vivekananda
“People do not lack strength; they lack will.” Victor Hugo
“He who moves not forward, goes backward.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“By perseverance the snail reached the Ark.” Charles Spurgeon