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3 People Have Opportunity to Receive a FREE Reiki Healing Attunement Each Month ~ Actively Integrating Your Experience
This morning I woke up with intuitive guidance to present a gift of service that supports integrative healing. I dedicate my life to sharing from my heart, seeds to support souls to come more into their fullness in gentle and subtle ways that create a more authentic and invigorated way of living from passionate truth. In essence, inspirations to mirror the wholeness you are and the reminder of your highest potentials from the source of love that is innately you. In so doing, this harmony and grounded balance you embody more from within, then reflects without.
Between my Facebook pages and blog, I daily invest my heart energy into this sharing for whom ever might be listening and for whom ever may be ready to courageously step into a new way of experience.
The gift I am going to offer will be monthly through the end of this year, unless no one actively participates, and will start with this month.
I receive a lot of beautiful comments and messages from people about how the posts affect them, and I’m curious as to how the effects received, translate into tangible and integrated experiences.
So my offer is this:
Each month, on the last day of the month, I will gather all entries. Three people will be chosen from these to receive a FREE Reiki Healing Attunement from me, that will energetically focus on any intents you desire on any level. A Reiki Healing Attunement amplifies the energy available for healing and helps dissolve any energetic resistance and blocks, so the Reiki energy can work more quickly and more deeply to promote growth and integrative healing, as well as aid the creation and alignment for manifestations to take place. Like with anything, the more of an active role in partnership you meet the process with, the more you will experience as a result.
This is a $55 value gifted to you. So in total I will be gifting $165 worth of services each month along with the posts I share daily.
How Can I Enter?
If you follow my posts already on either my blog: https://taniamarieartist.wordpress.com or Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/taniamarieartist then you simply need to keep aware of the posts that I share and make note of which one or ones in particular that month really hit home for you in some way – maybe it provided a new perspective, really helped you that day or month, shifted your experience, or supported something you’d been asking and found it to be an answer…however it may be, when you do find a post that makes an impact in some way for you during that particular month, I’d like to hear about it with a brief statement of why or how that particular post moved you and what you “actively” did or changed in your life that made a difference, as a result.
You then message me at tania@taniamarie.com with the title of the post or copy and paste the post, with a brief commentary on why and, again, what you “actively” shifted and integrated that has resulted in changes for you.
The point of this is to stress “taking active charge and putting into practice” the things we learn, rather than just feeling good in the moment we read or hear something that makes sense to us and adding it to our mental library shelf where it sits collecting dust.
It is a way you can be accountable in your life for “walking the walk” and consistently practicing what you believe. It may also be a way for you to be more pro-active in your life and consciously commit yourself to be present with your experiences and put things to work for you. I find that writing can also solidify and help move the energy through in the sharing process. It could become a way to gauge/document how much you DO actually change (as you can reflect on you before and now) so you can acknowledge, honor, and be grateful to yourself for the courageous steps you have taken.
And in honor of your courage to do so, I will gift you supportive energy to aid the process of the change you are facilitating.
If you don’t already follow my blog or posts on my facebook page, then if this personal challenge and offering speaks to you, you may desire to start following them. In which case you can either sign up for email notifications of my blog posts or simply follow my blog. And on facebook you can start following my page by hitting the “like” button to receive notifications of my posts. I post both my blog and additional inspirations on my facebook page daily.
Again, the links for these are:
https://taniamarieartist.wordpress.com
https://www.facebook.com/taniamarieartist
How Will The Three People Be Chosen?
At first I thought random drawing would be the way to decipher the recipients from the email messages I receive, but I don’t feel that is aligned with the commitment of this process. So instead, I am guided to choose them based on the content of the message in terms of the impact you experience and the changes you start implementing. All being relative to each person. So they are not compared as better or bigger than another person’s experiences, but based on the individual’s own experience and shifts. So, it is important that you invest your heart into the process, if you desire to be part of it.
When Will The Recipients Be Announced?
I will announce the three people who will receive the FREE Reiki Healing Attunement on the 1st of each month. So the first round will take place on Tuesday, October 1st for the month of September’s posts. You will be contacted via email, as well as announced here on my blog, at which time I will set up a time with you and gather your focus for your Reiki Healing Attunement to take place. You can only enter once per month, but have the ability to win as many times as your entries reflect.
If you have any questions, you can contact me. And if you are ready to embark on this personal challenge, then perhaps you may want to review September’s posts, sign up or start following one or both of my links, and if you already have a favorite and a story to share, go ahead and message it to me at tania@taniamarie.com.
I must add that I finished writing this post at 1:11. 😉
Gentle Integration for the Courageous – Reiki & Other Frequency-Shifting Processes Can Make the Difference
When I see and feel people go through really powerful releases and shifts with such ease and grace, like in yesterday’s Reiki session with a client, it reminds me of why I love Reiki so much and why courageous accountability can increase the effects tenfold.
What I love about Reiki is how it is a truth-seeker that penetrates to the core source and works on ALL levels, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, which I feel is so important in terms of the integrated healing I speak about so often as being integral to truly creating eternal depth to the new we are creating.
It is no wonder that Reiki was the modality that spoke to me most to incorporate into my life and infuse into the instinctual practices I already do, as not only is it so easy for anyone to work with and powerfully gentle (mirroring the current frequency of experience), but it is already something we are naturally attuned to at the Source of our Beingness, since Reiki IS the Universal Life Force Energy from which everything IS.
The old world is slow because of separation, gaps, and fear. The new world is fast because of interconnection. As we approach unity, life is more instantaneous. Our lives work by new rules based on the speed of the present moment. Shifting out of negativity and stuckness is often a matter of not exerting the old forceful willpower but “choosing what’s choosing you.” ~Penney Peirce
The gentle, the natural, the unconditionally loving, the integrative, and harmonious…these are elements I find to be of importance in terms of evolutionary processes of the new reality. But along with letting go of a grueling process, you must also let go of beliefs in it, as well as self-sabotaging stubborn ideas.
When fine-tuned and fully embraced, the more gentle processes can shift what once used to be an ordeal, into an epiphany of release. That isn’t to mean there won’t be a deep level of commitment needed, but if you’re real with yourself you can make the process more like sands slipping through the hourglass once you’ve flipped the perspective.
I’ve written several posts on the importance of integrative and grounded healing, being honest with yourself, allowing your feelings to move through you, and fully embodying the concepts into authentic experience. I believe there are a variety of ways one can go about this, but do find that processes that work on an energetic and feeling resonance level, getting us back in touch with our authenticity, to be powerfully transformative.
Ways that shift things with the vibrational frequency in a natural cycling way that mirrors a return to natural harmony and innate wholeness, are my choice go-to’s.
Sometimes it is the subtle frequency shifts and perspectives that can make a difference when you think you’ve done all that you think you can do. And it’s the allowing of truth and flow to take place, so that all the fear blockages can release into fullness of authenticity. Energy work, sound healing, music, encoded symbolism, crystals, aligning with nature, movement, feeling, intimacy of experiencing and expression, honest reflection, allowing…I find to all be so powerful and transmutational.
For emotional healing to prevail, we must enter fully into whatever is left unprocessed and ride it all the way through until the pent-up energy is drained off the issue. Then, it is finished, never to command your attention or psychic energy again. ~Jacquelyne Small
Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death. ~Anais Nin
When you become an active, willing, open, honest, accountable, and responsible partner in your journey, this is what will make the difference with any process you choose. I can see how this reflects in the Reiki sessions that I support clients with. The clients that truly are ready and courageously embrace the process on all levels, are the ones who experience the greatest and quickest results.
It’s not that there is any time-frame, other than the one YOU desire and YOU choose, nor is there a better or worse scenario.
However, if you truly want change, you WILL need to choose to BE that change in what ever way YOU are asking of YOURSELF to shift. You will need to ACTIVELY and HONESTLY cross the bridges of your fears into the love of yourself that awaits your embrace.
This Mantra and video felt aligned with today’s post. So here is my very favorite Deva Premal sacred piece offering a beautiful version of the Mantra that helps clear past, present and future, which was yesterday’s (the 9th) in the 21-Day Mantra Meditation. Let the visuals and resonance take you on an integrative healing journey.
The Mantra is:
Aad guray nameh
Jugaad guray nameh
Sat guray nameh
Siri guray deveh nameh
I bow to the Primal Guru.
I bow to Eternal Truth.
I bow to True Wisdom.
I bow to Great Divine Wisdom.
Inner Tuning: Guru means that which brings us from darkness (GU) to light (RU). As I chant this mantra, I invoke the protective energy of the universe, and celebrate new beginnings, both inner and outer.
Reason For Rainbows
Just because….
I was inspired this morning when I woke up and saw the 8 paintings I’ve done so far, displayed across the floor in a rainbow collage that tickled my heart and soul. I then knew instantly I was being guided to post some rainbow inspiration, so I am sharing these photos that I’ve taken of some rainbows showing up in my life and this enlivening music by Yanni (whom I listen to so often), as there is always a “Reason for Rainbows”.
Okay, so maybe the reason is that the way I live my life is from the full spectrum of the rainbow, and then some.
Maybe it’s because my palette as an artist of life is limitless in breadth of colorful experiences and I am one who loves to dip into life fully and make splashes with vibrancy.
Maybe it’s because our feelings are like a rainbow of reflections that are beautiful in and of themselves. And, when fully expressed, are a miracle of natural art that IS only because of the integral flowing strokes coming together.
And maybe it’s because life just simply is a rainbow of experiences that I find to be an exciting adventure.
I know I am definitely experiencing the colors of life in high definition these days and that equates to pure harmony. I have even seen this weekend the mirror of this not only in my current paintings I’m creating, as I continue to explore the unlimited colors and combinations, but also in two sunsets back to back that have been stunning, high-definition, colorful sunset displays of the Universe giggling along with me in my “rainbow explorations”. Who knows what today will bring. It’s a suspenseful surprise always!
“Life is like a rainbow. You need both the sun and the rain to make its colors appear.” ~Unknown
I’ve already shared about letting your feelings move through you and allowing your humanness to be the reflection of Divinity it is. The feelings that you bury, never go away until you embrace, forgive, and allow them to move through you. A good place to start is to always be mindful and conscious of what you’re feeling, thinking, saying, AND doing. See how these are setting the tone for your day…and life..and be willing to receive the origin of these feelings (as there is always a trigger to something behind it) so that with recognition and accountability, you can let them go.
Feelings are like all things natural…they must keep cycling through or you end up fighting an exhausting and futile battle against the inevitable.
Each color of your wings is a color of your truth and spirit to share. Don’t be afraid to let it flow. Spread your wings wide and sore to the heights of you.
“Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.” ~Aberjhani
Creating a Gateway Through the Heart Chakra for Connection & Telepathic Communication

Heart Sanctum ~ “Love In, Love Out” by Tania Marie
30” x 30” Acrylic on Canvas
http://taniamarie.com/gallery3.htm
I was reading a channeled message this morning about “The Power of Portals” from Peggy Black and the “team” and found it to be aligned with what I wanted to share today about the heart and its ability to bridge communication by assisting with telepathy. In the message, they discussed the energy centers/portals that exist in all dimensions, both planetary and off-planet, as well as the ones that reside within our body temples – called Chakras. All of these acting as gateways into other spaces and dimensions, as well as to deeper levels of connecting.
The part that of course stood out was the sharing about the Heart and its powerful importance in our roles as the Multi-dimensional Beings that we are. Why? Because to me, the Heart has always held the key and is my truth for alchemy of all experiences.
It is also the Heart that creates the possibility for pure and vulnerable communication. It can assist you in clearing the other Chakras and empowering them into their wholeness, as it is the integrative “Bridge” between all of them – Lower and Upper. When this clarity opens more and more within your Chakra system – governed by the heart, this is when telepathic relating becomes much clearer and easier to exchange between each other, as it once was.
I know I’ve said it before, but telepathy is my preferred method of communicating and have always been utilizing it even though I write and talk just as anyone else. I do find words to be limiting however, and so this is when I may go silent and yet am ever-present.
There is much more going on beneath the surface in all that I convey and I find that it is so much easier to share the magnitude of feeling or to describe something, when it is conveyed through a projected feeling, vision, essence…
I’ve been excited to see how telepathy is increasing and this is evident in all of the synchronous and immediate experiences that take place right after you feel or think something inside of, and with all of, your heart. Others are picking up on it and reflecting it back. And the more and more we work with the healing power of the heart, the more powerful all of our experiences become and the more pure and clear of intent they are.
It is my hope that we continue to re-engage this innate ability we have, as it truly makes for more simplified ways of experiencing. It removes the veils and walls, as well as the need to manipulate or devise ways of expressing ourselves that create confusion, static and inconsistency, since they do not match the energy and feeling behind the words. Yes, of course this may be scary, to actually have your feelings revealed, but the truth is, they already ARE being felt and known, whether you like it or not.
People just may not be telling you, yet you may find, if you become more present in heart with yourself and others, that you will know right away when you are being true to yourself, when others are being true, and why perhaps different circumstances than you hoped from what you concocted to say, happen. And why perhaps some people are not in your experience anymore or are not as eager to listen to what you have to say, until you align your feelings and thoughts more.
People who are sensitive to energy, feel the truth behind your words. And your own experiences reveal the truth, as you manifest, attract, and reflect exactly what is a mirror of your energy and core feelings, not what is a mirror of your words.
In order to align with all parts of yourself, the Heart will be your best support system in doing so, as it helps you to intuitively sense from its awareness. It has the ability to feel and see where something is blocked and closed within your Chakras and through its wisdom and healing, can help to shift, and in essence return, the imagined pains into free flowing empowerment once again.
And when you have an empowered and clear heart, you not only will have more enriching connections and communication here on Earth with all of life, but you will also create a pure gateway to Galactic and Universal energy at large.
As one of my favorite Books/Movies – The Secret of Nimh – shares from the words of Nicodemus (as you know simplicity is what I favor):
“Courage of the heart is very rare. The stone has a power when it’s there.” – In essence, when you have the courage to embrace, TRULY, going into the vulnerability of your heart, you discover its strength that has the power to move mountains and to change anything with its alchemy.
Here is the channeled message from Peggy and the “team” I will leave you with:
“The most important portal/chakra in the human is the heart. It is the heart which manages and maintains the entire physical form. It is the consciousness of the heart, the energy field of the heart that is the link and the connection to the divine and to life itself. The heart is the gateway to all awareness and well-being. The heart is the thinking/feeling/knowing aspect of a multidimensional starhuman.
Your culture, your society; your programming and teachings have not included this important piece of information. It is the mystic, the seer, the sensitive who has recognized that the heart is the doorway to all intelligent knowing.
The health of the human heart is and has been one of the mysteries in your medical field. What is not included in the information is the realization that the heart is the cosmic gateway for each individual. This is the seat of your unique self. It is from the open, loving, conscious heart that all things unfold and all mysteries are resolved.
We are inviting you to continue with your dedicated intention to heal your heart portal for it is through this heart portal that galactic and universal energy is received.
The most important tool in the healing, harmonizing and balancing of your heart portal is to continue to turn your awareness to the vibrations of joy, gratitude and appreciation. It is the power of these vibrations which allows the heart center/heart portal to heal from all the emotional wounds carried. It is your willingness and intent that can heal your heart.
The heart portal was designed to serve as the gateway to the stars. This heart portal allows the energy to flow from divine source and the heart center processes this energy for the expansion of the human being.
Each human being is asked to give service work for the wholeness and healing of the heart center of humanity. It is when human beings live from an open and healed heart portal that they know and feel their connections with each other as the true multidimensional star beings that they are.”
Integrative Healing & Reiki – New Experiences In Store for You on this Year’s Bimini Retreat
I’ve posted a lot about all of the amazing experiences and offerings that are available to you during our Summer Solstice Rhythm of Renewal Retreat in Bimini, Bahamas at The ARC, but I haven’t delved into more about what will make this journey unique in terms of what will be facilitated, as there has been a continuous flow of energy shifts I’ve been riding in terms of how to best support that. Everything is constantly changing and so I am open to where that leads in order to provide what is in highest alignment.
No matter how much I describe or share photos, I always come up short in being able to express the actual experience of what a retreat like this can bring, especially due to the fact that we create with what the moment brings us, which can always be such a journey of wonderment and surprise.
However, I have been guided to expound a little more on the the aspects of Reiki and the healing journey that you will embark upon with my support, especially since these have shifted since I first posted the retreat.
As always, I am listening to where Spirit guides me and matching the resonance of the Collective’s needs with what I’m being shown to offer.
If you follow my blog posts, you may notice a lot of focus on “integration,” which has always been my focal point of the work I do in totality since the get-go.
“Integration” and a “return to natural harmony” – HUGE for me! – and all focused on the inner truth stillness and power of the heart.
Actually, my original business name when I first began things many years ago was “Integrative Healing Arts.” I still use this term to describe my work and services all the time, but now it just goes under a new umbrella of “Emerald Bridge,” which represents the Heart Chakra “integrative energy” that “bridges” and merges things into harmony.
See a theme here? It all goes hand-in-hand and focuses on that unconditionally loving and compassionate energy that honors all and empowers from the inside out.
So, what I am guided to bring into the experience, this summer’s retreat, is supporting integration and bringing our Reiki training to another level with some added goodies. 🙂
On our 6 night and 6 day retreat I will be supporting each person within the group to become attuned to Reiki Level 1, which will be a shared experience of teaching and learning, gaining an understanding of and experiencing the Reiki energy, receiving an initiation, and becoming certified. Once we have, then we will be journeying into practicing on deeper levels with practical applications and experiences to support your own and others’ integrative healing journeys, which will be inclusive of and beyond Reiki.
This will be a week of transformational experiences that will lead you to greater sense of self, clarity, empowerment, peace, joy, and deeper love and compassion. One of the focuses will be on deepening and expanding your heart through Reiki (pronounced ray-key).
The practice of channeling Reiki is an easy-to-learn, gentle and powerful system of natural healing that reduces stress, induces relaxation, supports intentions, helps return you to a more natural and clearer flow on all levels, and provides many other healing benefits. The Reiki class offered is part of the Traditional Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki Certification Training.
In Reiki Level 1, you’ll learn about the history, principles, ethics and practice of Reiki and the foundations that really are at the “heart” of its essence that are important to consistently embody. You’ll experience Reiki, receive an attunement and start a 21-day energetic cleanse. You’ll learn scanning, Reiki lineage, hand positions for giving in-person, hands-on treatments to others and yourself, (including your animal companions) and more. This class can help you begin the journey of creating more harmony and peace in your daily life and in your interaction with people to help center you more in compassion.
Whether you are new to Reiki, have already been through Reiki Level 1, are preparing to teach and want a refresher, or want to incorporate Reiki into your current healing practice, you will find these classes to be supportive and timely in terms of the now.
This offering is provided with intention to help you to step gracefully into learning how to support yourself, other people and animals towards compassionate goals, intentions and worldwide healing and change.
You will have access to any support I can provide during your time on this retreat with personal attention to meet your desired goals. We will also participate in global and personal healing intentions and sessions that will take you on a life-enhancing and empowering new path.
And as the group comes through the Reiki Level 1 experience together, we will then continue our journey with deepening this experience and supporting that integrative healing.
I believe that integration is a key point to supporting us to the next experience of life that we desire to have. I feel that doing the deeper work really makes the difference and helps you to understand the continuous triggering taking place and supports you to move through the frustrations of wondering why things are not improving when you are doing so much spiritual stuff already.
So, rather than skip levels, which we have all fallen into doing at one point or another, we’ll focus on some ways to work more deeply and all-encompassing through guided meditations for personal and collective connecting, practical tuning in as we practice Reiki, doing some personal and group work to look within, and also be guided by the moment and the energy needs of the group to where it takes us in flow.
I look forward to what may transpire, all the while 100% being there to support each of you. There may even be some spontaneous fun with crystals, healing art, and my unique sound melody healing may make an appearance if the occasion arises to support integrative healing. We will play it by heart…
“Wholeness, healing, integration; that is what the inner journey is about, and it happens when our inner and outer selves, when the world within us and the world around us merge as one. We experience this fleetingly through music. I feel it deeply, often through song.”
“It is the closest I have ever come to wholeness, and I suspect to holiness as well. It is where I turn in search of healing, not to be alone in my isolation but in order to center myself within the Center of all my longing, within that Presence, that Power, where all that lives resides.”
“Through music all life can be present to us, and in some sense present within us…For some, music accompanies their inner journey into wholeness and healing; for others it is the journey itself, the journey into ultimate meaning. When we embrace music as a healing presence, we are already home.” ~Miriam Therese Winter
Integrating, to me, means lovingly recognizing, honoring, embracing, surrendering to, healing, and bringing together so that unification and harmony can be experienced at all stages and on all levels. It is a process of transmutation involving going beyond things like affirmations, and understanding what the feelings that prompted the affirmations have to share and teach us while learning how to lovingly support and understand their process. In doing so, you learn that life is more than black and white and within the gray you will discover unconditional love and compassion for others, as well as realize that you are loved in all of your wholeness at every step of the journey.
“The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace becomes transmuted into peace. Anything you accept fully will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender.” ~Eckhart Tolle
I am very much looking forward to our beautiful experience together and where it leads us. And of course alongside all of this, the retreat will be enhanced and supported by the rest of the magic offered at The ARC – wild dolphin swims, sacred site snorkeling, raw vegan food, yoga, the energy and mysticism of Atlantis, and a lot of loving support.
If you have any questions or would like to register for the upcoming Bimini Retreat you can email me at tania@taniamarie.com. You can receive up to $200 discount if you register by 5/5/13.
The Alchemy of Responsible Reflection
As we each move through the waves of current energies flowing in and out of our lives these days, it can be helpful to understand how to navigate more easily and transmute energies more quickly.
One of these ways is the mirroring process, which we all have heard of and hear reiterated often, but if you really actually put it to practice, you will see it as one of the powerfully effective tools that it is, which can instantly shift your experiences and empower you.
Many times we avoid, repress, ignore, turn the cheek or our back on, and convince ourselves about things, while we may find excuses to have our choices superficially fill the spiritual ideals we have come to value, yet haven’t really integrated at the core.
One red flag or message that shows you you have not fully transmuted something is if it continually patterns back, either in the same exact way and from the same exact source, or from a new source, but with the same underlying story.
I know for myself, one of the most empowering ways I have learned, and am daily learning, to shift my experiences, is by actively facing the mirror. Of course we all have human feelings that can at first react, rather than respond, or simply come up for us to express. But the reason for these reactions and releases are for us to take note of their message.
If something bothers you on some level, there is something in it to learn about yourself and why that is.
Could it be that there are ways in your own life you are the same as what you are not liking in another?
Could it be that you have ignored something about yourself that you are being shown to do or express?
Could it be sharing a theme that needs healing in your life or that calls for greater understanding and compassion?
Could it be that you are needing to learn the truth of unconditionally loving detachment both of self and others?
If you are a light worker, healer, visionary, leader, etc…much of what comes up can also be about helping you to get to a new level of understanding within, so that you can be of greater service to others.
So it really can be beneficial to pay attention and look inside, re-evaluate, and create a new direction for your life.
Even if we create a superficial boundary, but haven’t truly integrated the learning, no matter where we run or go, the same things will follow just in a new way and form, until we actually take a look at the underlying meaning and deal with it. That boundary would need a healthy, core foundation in order to create new experiences.
I know this very well in my own life, that core patterns will continue to cycle around until I look within and make the necessary adjustments. And they have changed by my doing so.
And when new things come up, or in the case of a pattern, old things come up, I allow my feelings to move through me without judgment, as it’s the only way I will be able to move through them in a healthy way. It also is the way I can instantly then be present and look at those feelings and look at myself, as an observer watching through the mirror, and find out what it means for me.
And then the healing integration immediately takes place and I relate to the thing, or person, and in essence, myself, in a completely different way and with greater sense of peace and empowerment, as well as more compassion, and can communicate more clearly.
The reaction then turns into my learning to more presently respond and come from a deeper place when I do. It takes practice, but with practice it becomes much easier. And with everything accelerating, it can happen instantly.
That isn’t to mean we won’t ever come up against something else, once we do integrate certain things, as we are continually evolving and we will have new things to help us to get to new experiences.
However, our processes can completely change and become more natural and we won’t be looking at it as this thing to do or work on, but we just instantly work the magick and poof! Instant alchemy.
It’s about empowering yourself.
The only reason things seem to happen “to us” is because we aren’t taking responsibility in our own lives and realizing our ability to actively be part of our experience.
Maybe some see this as a burden and why it may feel easier to turn away from things or ignore something even in the heat of the moment.
But do realize you can shift everything “through” YOU and create more natural balance as a result.
Here is what Shakti Gawain has to share about learning from your mirrors:
Often, we are so stuck in our old beliefs and patterns that we aren’t able to see the changes we need to make. Even when we feel frustrated about our problems, we may not recognize what we need to learn to change things. That is why we need to use the mirror of life. Everything in our lives reflects where we are in the process of developing integration and balance. We can use everything that happens externally as a mirror to help us see the areas within us that need healing and development. Whenever we have a problem, especially a recurring or chronic problem, it is always an arrow pointing directly to some aspect of our psyche where we need more awareness.
We all attract certain people into our life who have developed qualities opposite to the ones we are most identified with. In other words, they mirror our disowned selves, and we mirror theirs. These are often the most highly emotionally charged relationships. We either love them, hate them, or both! We feel very attracted to them, and/or very uncomfortable, judgmental, annoyed, or frustrated with them. The stronger the feelings, the more important a mirror they are for us. We have drawn them into our reality to show us something about what we need to develop in ourselves. The fact that we have such strong feelings (one way or another) toward them means that they are showing us a part of ourselves we need to acknowledge, accept, and integrate.
Of course, it’s important in any relationship to learn constructive ways to communicate honestly about our needs, our likes and dislikes, and so forth. However, along with letting the other person know our feelings, including ways we might wish they would change, we need to remind ourselves that we brought them into our lives to teach and inspire us to develop new aspects of ourselves. Our challenge, then, is to be open to discovering the parts of ourselves that they mirror for us, and to learn how we can express those parts of ourselves more in our own lives. Difficulties we are having in our relationships often mirror parts of ourselves that we need to heal. Such difficulties may involve a family member, a close friend, a coworker, or even people with whom we have only a brief encounter, such as a clerk in a store. If you are having difficulty with a present relationship, or if you frequently encounter certain kinds of difficult people — for example, a needy person or a person who doesn’t respect your boundaries — take a moment to look closely at what they are reflecting.
The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors reflecting their beliefs. So relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth… if we look honestly at our relationships we can see so much about how we have created them.